I know this question doesn't belong here but i get my best answers from here. So here is my situation. I dated a guy for almost a year I gave him everything i had (emotionally) I gave him my virginity. I still care about him but I know he doesn't give a sh*t about me anymore. You can't help who you love I love him and always will. People yell at me because I need to move on but i have. Sorry for ranting i am just so mad. Can some one tell me what is wrong with me? Why does no one understand?
2006-12-27 13:29:41 · 11 answers · asked by Casandra 2 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I have moved on I have had a boyfriend since him but it was a terrible relationship the guy was afraid of a relationship.
2006-12-27 13:35:40 · update #1
hey, sometimes it takes a long time to just feel normal again after a rough breakup.
some people don't understand because they haven't been through it.
try some new relaxation techniques for now, stop being mad at your friends for not understanding... maybe some anger aimed toward this ex-love will help you.... try using his picture as a dart board!
good luck!
and if you would like for him to walk the plank (or the people that are yelling at you about it) just send them to me with some rum & it'll be a party!
2006-12-27 13:37:10 · answer #1 · answered by Cap'n Donna 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We girls always attach feelings to sex, especially the first. That is why I have to wait until I know what his feelings towards me are before I make the plunge. I have to keep telling myself that it is just recreational, and I usually feel a lot more than he does.
I know that it is hard, but I personally just had to finally let it go. I am still in love with someone that dumped me in 1998. I just can't let go, but I think of it as a death... I had a relationship that I could see going somewhere... marriage, children, matching coffins, side by side plots... It took lots of therapy to finally figure out that I needed to mourn the relationship... it was indeed a "death". And, I still cry sometimes about Michael. (We were engaged, one day we were fine, the next day I got a "it's not you, it's me" letter on my car windshield). It sucks, but I have finally decided that there is nothing that I can do to change his mind... I cannot alter anyone else's will... and I wouldn't if I could.
If you want to talk, just send me an e-mail...
2006-12-27 13:39:16 · answer #2 · answered by guudkarma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there done that too..It will hurt a while but eventually you will move onto someone who will treat ya right..The love ya have for this guy will disapate in time,trust me..Just try to learn a lesson from this as well,& apply it to the next time you feel something special for a guy okay?I still care for the guy that took my virginity but in a distant way,due to it being so many years ago..and the fact
it wasn't a mental love I had for him anyway..Give it time,& always keep your mind & heart open to other guys,you don't wanna miss that someone special that will treat you the way you deserve..=)
2006-12-27 13:40:07 · answer #3 · answered by *toona* 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a very normal situation that most ppl go through once in their lifetime. DO NOT listen to those other ppl move on when you are ready if it was them in your position and telling them to move on they wouldnt give a damn what you said. so dont buy into their 'advice' the only thing that can heal a broken heart is time the occasional sweet fix and eventually someone else. bc the boy obviously has your heart and you need someone to give you their to fill the void. love stink. but find the one whos perfect for you and love is divine
2006-12-27 13:45:56 · answer #4 · answered by Jordan Alexis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand, it is like you feel like he was the perfect one and you blame yourself for investing so much into him when he never cared and you felt like you should have know better but you are not physic so don't blame yourself, don't blame anyone time heals even the deepest wounds!
Just read you details:
Hunny, listen you need to try a dating service or have someone set you up with like a mutual friend, now i know this may seem dumb and it probably wont work out long term but it will give you a better chance at having a good relationship. This good relationship will give you a better outlook on the dating seen and probably make you happy for awhile!
2006-12-27 13:33:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well if you moved on like you said, then what's the problem? unless you haven't truly moved on, even if you are dating someone else. if you still talk and think about him, then you are still emotionally attached to him...i know what you are going trough and you get over it on your own time, but you have to really want to get over him and jumping back in a relationship is not the way to go, trust! good luck.
2006-12-27 13:37:30 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's nothing wrong with you...you got attached to the wrong person who took advantage of you... and most surely he doesnt deserve not even the slightest attention from you because he acted like a complete idiot...stop thinking about the past because the world is full of great people out there just waiting to meet you... ;)
2006-12-27 13:33:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
theres nothing wrong with you...move on,theres someone else out there for you
2006-12-27 13:32:06 · answer #8 · answered by charmel5496 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
baby....you are not alone
and polls and surverys
seems to be the best
place to hang around...
hang out with us..........
2006-12-27 13:34:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
see a shrink.
2006-12-27 13:33:06 · answer #10 · answered by scooprandell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋