My ex-husband sends me nasty e-mails about how I am stupid, selfish, stubborn and have caused pain and destruction to him and his family.
Then, he sends me a e-card for Christmas about us getting back together to finish the journey that we started together. He also leaves me voicemails to call him to discuss things. He wants me to move with him to another state where he has accepted a new job. I live in different state than he does now.
I don't know how to react to this hot and cold treatment. Its confusing.
He says that I need to change my attitude and that any man that I married would ask me the same things that he is asking. Then, he says that I should be grateful that I am getting a second chance to put my family back together.
How can I forget the mean, hurtful e-mails though?
2006-12-27 13:24:24 · 7 answers · asked by Stareyes 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Stupid, selfish, stubborn?? This man sounds very manipulative. He sounds as though he is very verbally and mentally abusive. Add his email to your spam list so you don't get them. Stay in your state and let him find someone in his new area to manipulate and abuse.
You appear intelligent and well spoken. Find someone who will respect you and love you "over the moon". Life is too short to be with someone who treats you so poorly. We begged my Mother to get out of her 15 year abusive marriage every chance we had. She finally did... she took her own life. She was sure when she went back "this time" he would change.... he never did. If you have children... you ARE a family and that is what is important.
Best wishes to you and Happy New Year.
2006-12-27 13:38:00 · answer #1 · answered by RaLoh 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a prick and selfish bastard. Everyone is flawed in some way or other. So for him to cast stones at you and tell you that you couldn't find anything better than him is bullsh*t. He is mentally abusing and bullying you. You are a beautiful woman who deserves to have the best and be treated right by any man. Get away from him and reclaim yourself and independence. Good luck to you and best wishes in the New Year.
2006-12-27 21:42:27 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is very insecure. You can tell just by what he said about other men would treat you the same way. Maybe some men would, and some men wouldn't. He talks down to you, because he doesn't want you to think that you can do any better than him.
But in reality, he knows that you can. If you want to work it out with him, make sure you two tackle his insecurity issues, otherwise, he's just going to make his problems, your hell.
2006-12-27 21:43:54 · answer #3 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT TALK TO HIM. Set up your email so you cannot receive his messages. Print them all out if you have any kids for the judge if ever needed. If you dont have kids, thank the lord, since you have no reason to talk to him. dont torture yourself
As for him moving, I SAY, GOOD RIDDANCE!
2006-12-27 21:35:26 · answer #4 · answered by Jay Jay 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like he is really wounded and still angry. If you are sure it's over, then you guys need to quit communicating - it just makes it worse.
2006-12-27 21:30:51 · answer #5 · answered by Missy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
cut him out. He's having fun messing with your head.
2006-12-27 21:41:09 · answer #6 · answered by Pandora 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why do you even bother with him, he is your ex for a reason, leave him be and stop all contact
2006-12-27 21:27:15 · answer #7 · answered by zether 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋