Does My Boyfriend Masterbate?

Question

One day I was thinking "I wonder if he masterbates when he's not around me"


I don't know why, I just did

and i've been curious ever since

Answer 1

dose he have hands.

Answer 2

Why are you so curious about is. Yes it is natural for girls and boys both. (Men and women too) It is part of human instict and one of the necessities of life. That doesn't mean that people don't restrain themselves, but at some point, before they thought there was anything wrong with it, they all did it. Even if it was as children that didn't understand what they were doing or why it felt funny or good. Hope this gives you some insight.

Answer 3

Locke has it right. Boys and Girls begin touching themselves when they are toddlers or earlier. Everything is about exploration then, it feels good and they haven't any idea about 'sex' or 'shame'.

As they get just a little older they are socialized and begin to learn about 'private parts' and good touching and bad touching. Shame begins to be associated with certain parts of the body (which is, itself, a shame!).

By the time our kids are old enough to have some really in-depth discussions about sex and consequences, emotions, love etc. they are too embarassed to meet our eyes when we say the word *S*E*X*.

At the same time their brains have been programmed to shame, their bodies are starting to open the flood gates to hormones and major changes are taking place at a rate they haven't experienced since they were toddlers.

Boys masterbate whether they choose to or not. Their bodies will betray them during sleep, in school (thank goodness for textbooks!), even (as my husband says) a stiff breeze can get a tween or teenager going.

Girls have a little more choice, of the friends I have had the conversation with about half have said they have or do. I have heard many therapists (regular therapists, not sex therapists) recommend it to women as stress relief or to improve sex with their partner. The idea being if a woman figures out what pleases her she can communicate that during love-making with her partner etc.

I had to laugh when I read the answer that said if your boyfriend was between 16 and 20... honey it goes on LONG after that. Even the answer that said something about a guy 'under 40' or close to that... LOL wrong again

I am sure that there are men who have lower sex drives, or whose sex drives slow down as they age, but let me assure you that I know many healthy, happy, active, and sexually active men and women up to twice that age... yes, that means 80. I don't know that they *self-serve* but I wouldn't rule it out based on age.

I, myself, am 40, my husband is older than me - our parents are healthy seniors. I don't know about their sex lives, except for the occasional joke or tush pinch between a Dad & Mom, but if I had to bet I'd say they are still locking the bedroom door. Heaven knows I plan on being that healthy and active when I am in my 70's and 80's too!

So, does your boyfriend? Yup. Do you? If not, you probably will eventually.

=)

Jen

Answer 4

I guess you are young and naïve…..

If you ask the question to a young man, there is a possibility that he´ll be ashamed and negate it. If you ask an older gay, probably you may be closer to the truth: all men do it, if they are healthy.

By the way, most women don’t do it. They don’t need to, because they have a more passive sex drive. Nevertheless, they should do it. in order to learn how their body works. Otherwise, many don’t know anything about sex except being passive, and that is not a sexual partner. They will always be unsatisfied. If you know what I mean….

Alfredo E.
www.omega-3-fish-oil-wonders.com

P.S. See my page: sex-omega-3 at www.omega-3-fish-oil-wonders.com

Answer 5

Probably. Are the two of you active, maybe not having intercourse, but handjobs that sort of thing? And the age of your boyfriend has a roll to play in it. If you really want to know ask him though. Some guys don't when they're committed to their girl. My boyfriend and I don't masturbate anymore and when we do we inform the other (the last time either of us did was well over 2 months ago). Good luck.

Answer 6

Yes, your boyfriend masturbates. Masturbation is a very confusing thing to young men and women. The young men worry about whether or not they are doing something wrong, and young women(and many considerably older ones as well) are often not aware that almost all men masturbate. Masturbation is a healthy practice for men at any age from puberty until they can no longer perform the act. Masturbation and orgasms are a completely different experience for men and for women. Men are required to ejaculate. Lack of masturbation in men is quite unhealthy and can lead to many health problems. Even without masturbation or sex, men will eventually ejaculate in their sleep. Men can be even more sensitive about masturbation than some women are about their period. Some women understand masturbation to even this point and are often confused when they find that their boyfriends are masturbating even when the couple is constantly sexually active. Masturbation is not only needed as sexual satisfaction. It is needed in itself for psychological reasons. Men often use mastubation very casually (although secretly) in order to relieve stress or feel relaxed. It also has an effect on a male ego. There are many reasons why male masturbation is healthy, but as a young woman looking for an answer, please understand that it is healthy and him masturbating even if you two are sexually active has ABSOLUTELY nothing to do with dissatisfaction with you. Masturbation is much different with females. Although it is not physically needed, masturbation and self induced orgasms is very SEXUALLY healthy for women from the age that they gain sexual desire and interest. There is nothing wrong with it. It is not a sin of any kind and it does not make you a slut. Exploring your own body will bring confidence to you and also develope a sort of self-lust which will add even more to your confidence in and out of sexual situations and can often help you make correct sexual choices because of that confidence. The internet has much more detailed information than you might find here at yahoo. Much of this information I got from my own female friends and my wife.

Answer 7

Just about everybody. Masturbation is a very common behavior, even among people who have sexual relations with a partner. In one national study, 95% of males and 89% of females reported that they have masturbated. Masturbation is the first sexual act experienced by most males and females. In young children, masturbation is a normal part of the growing child's exploration of his or her body. Most people continue to masturbate in adulthood, and many do so throughout their lives.

Answer 8

actually i had a question but i didnt want to lose points so im going as u
is it normal for girls to masterbate?
because i always thought only guys did

and ya i think ure bf probably does

Answer 9

Most people do after reaching puberty. It's perfectly normal and even healthy for guys especially because it keeps the system clear, so to speak.

Answer 10

There is no way to tell unless you give us more specific info. What makes you suspect that he masturbate in the first place? Well, he probably does simply because the vast majority of men do masturbate.

Answer 11

My boyfriend never masturbated until he met me, then he went crazy with himself. He likes it though, quite frankly, I am glad he go in touch with his physical self. lol. it has no effect on the relationship in my opinion.

keep in mind that everyone, including yourself, will probably have fantasies. that part is normal too, and a part of nature.