Is jealousy a natural human reaction?
2006-12-27 13:20:12 · 9 answers · asked by Orditz 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Try burning your hand with a lighter every time you start to get jealous.
2006-12-27 13:21:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It all depends if your spiritual or not.
Jealousy is a natural human reaction and its jusified by your answer to this question:
Why are you jealous?
This life is not fair, look at the socio ecominic differences. Some of us have reason to be jealous.
The only psycho technique I know is something my mother would tell me;
"do not watch what other peopIe have, cause you don't know how they got it".
Then I would ask my self the 5 w questions (Who, What, Where, When and Why) and then how.
If you dont question yourself you will only get answers from others.
2006-12-27 21:32:00 · answer #2 · answered by B1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No just time, lots of it. maybe years. You have to give a lot of your self to help one overcome jealousy. Having someone to be jealous over you is flattering to a point, but some people use it as leverage over the partner, like talking about old lovers or staring at women, making remarks about other women, sneaking around etc.. Instead they should embrace the one with constant attention, affection and never lie to them. Be noticeable concerned with everything the are interested in. Kiss them for no reason, call them just to say hi. It has to be from the heart. It will pay off in the long run. and turn into a beautiful long lasting life.
2006-12-27 21:22:17 · answer #3 · answered by char__c is a good cooker 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is a natural human reaction. It is how we make sure that our offspring are taken care of. Dolphins protect their mates with violent jealousy.......some humans do, most just throw tantrums and pout though.
Over the years (I'm 32) my jealousy has subsided. At least my acting out has. It isn't crazy like it was when I was in high school. Then I was apt to scream, beat people up and accuse people of the most bizarre and unlikely things. Now I might think it - but I KNOW that it's irrational and my problem - not the other persons. That is something that they have to see on their own. You can't change other people, nor are you responsible for their behavior. Unless you are sleeping with their sister - in that case - you get what you get.
2006-12-27 21:26:31 · answer #4 · answered by Chula 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Jealousy is a possessive approach to sustaining dysfunctional relationships. Jealousy is a construct, the notion of 'owning' someone which IS NOT A NATURAL REACTION to the fear of physical or emotional loss..
Attatchment to romantic fancies are what our idea of relationships are based upon, so we are conditioned to maintain the illusion of intimacy at all costs. Basically, society conditions us to stalk others and be jealous.
Jealousy is borne out of internal insecurities. Society tells us to 'love ourselves' but it does not give us a reason to love ourselves nor does it teach us HOW to love ourselves, so how can we be expected to love others' in a healthy way?.
Stop seeing your partner as your personal possession and jealousy will subside.
Good question.
2006-12-27 21:34:17 · answer #5 · answered by Ashley 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not the way you put it. There are psychological tools for helping someone get over jealousy.
Jealousy can have many causes, but the most prominent is insecurity over the possibility of losing something (or someone).
The polyamorous community is always concerned over dealing with jealousy and will often have articles, seminars, podcasts, and books dealing with how to deal with jealousy. Polyamory weekly has a podcast which is a recording of a seminar on dealing with jealousy.
2006-12-27 21:21:44 · answer #6 · answered by Radagast97 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Jealously is not a natural reaction. Jealously comes from fear. The fear that WE are going to be left out, miss something or be forgotten by someone or people we love or care about. In other words, we want to be the CENTER even when we're not there to be in the center! To get over this is easier than you think, just realize that if you truly love the person, THEIR HAPPINESS SHOULD ALWAYS COME FIRST. Not ours. Not that we don't deserve happiness, we do. But, by loving and being kind to our loved ones, if they mistreat us, it is not on our shoulders the burden and blame falls. Its theirs.
Just realize that if they truly love you, you ARE in their thoughts and heart even where you're not there. And that should be enough.
2006-12-27 21:28:05 · answer #7 · answered by AdamKadmon 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's based on the urge to survive and the will to do better. If you weren't jealous of someone, why would you want to make your life better? Jealousy can turn ugly, but it is natural and, ideally, advantageous.
2006-12-27 21:29:28 · answer #8 · answered by roxusan 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Unfortuantely it is a natural thing and unless you are void of all emotion, it is going to happen.
2006-12-27 22:25:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋