My fiance and I are planning to wed in 8 months. This should be the happiest time for us, but besides him working 80hrs a week and us not communicating, now he wants me to move to AZ (which I hate). His son, who lives with his mother 100% of the time, wants him to move there...now my fiance is trying to get me to move. My job that pays well is here,my family, and everything i love-not to mention the weather. We cant seem to resolve this issue, and we are fighting worse than ever before. I truly feel this is the end of us. He doesnt like any suggestions Ive made to compromise...and he isnt realizing all my feelings with giving up everything to move and how my life will change having a child dropped into my life all of the sudden. Im so angry, hurt, confused and scared. I love my bf and dont want to lose him, but i really dont see a way out. HELP ME???
2006-12-27 13:09:16 · 3 answers · asked by exotichina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
His child is rightfully his #1 priority. You have a right to feel as you do, simply this is not the life you want. Your fiance should be near his child regardless of who has custody. If you can't support him & accept AZ & his son, then this guy isn't for you. Next time, don't get involved with a guy that has a child. That child will always be #1 & you simply cannot accept that. Don't disrupt this man & his son's life with your non compassionate behavior. The guy & his son don't need drama.
2006-12-27 13:30:13 · answer #1 · answered by Daiquiri Dream 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You fiance has a child and wants to be in his life. Plan and simple. If you cannot accept this, then I would break up. You have to respect that he is a man and is TRYING to do whats right for his kid. You have to remember, your not only marrying him, but becoming a mother to his child too. It will be a hared decision, but, he is making the right one, sorry, so it should come down to are you in love with him enough to make the sacrifice? Be thankful he is a real man and standing up for his kid, most would go with the girl instead and do you really want someone who thinks so low of his kids for YOUR father of YOUR kids?
2006-12-27 21:15:15 · answer #2 · answered by Common Sense 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ok the same is with both ladies and men.U will always be in second place.Never get mixed up with people who have kids.believe me i have been there twice.ur just there like hanging meat.things change when they get home and u will see.
2006-12-27 21:17:45 · answer #3 · answered by hunchie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋