I married my husband for 5 yrs. Early of this year, we start staying at two different state because of his job. We will visit each other once or twice a week. Everything was fine until he found out that i still keep in contact with one of my ex-admirer (who is also my ex-classmate).
I keep reassure him that we were just friend (indeed this is the truth). He's already got a gf too. But he is so mad that he wont believe.
It's been 3 months after the incident, but he is still suspecting me. I still go visit him twice a week. But when i'm not with him, he'll call to check on me. If i were late from work, he'll suspect that i'm with others. If i can't answer his call on time, he'll suspect me dating with others.
I was sick 3 days ago. I slept once i was back from work. He called a few times but can't get me on call (probably i slept too tight). He then accused me for seeing others and ignore his call. He even don't answer my call till today.
What should I do? How can i gain back his trust?
2006-12-27 13:05:40 · 11 answers · asked by MiNnIe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The distance is killing your relationship.....you need to live together. It doesnt help that this friend is an ex-admirere either. You need to decide who is more important. You NEED to move in with your husband or this relationship is doomed hun.
2006-12-27 13:14:43 · answer #1 · answered by sensa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sensa was absolutly correct. There is no need for you to be in contact with an ex-admirer when you are married. I know it sucks but when you said I do, you made your husband the most important person. Any guy who you used to date or who liked you is potentially a problem. You need to respect your husband's dislike of this situation. If it is that important for you to be in contact with this ex-admirer, maybe you should evaluate your current situation. Distance will cause uncharicteristic jealousy. your hubby may not have been jealous before, but now that he cant see you every day his brain is making all of these horrible possibilites. you need to cut off contact with this other guy and tell your husband that you have done so and you need to make him know that he is the only one. Complement him. there is nothing better then honest complements. and you two need to decide who is in a better position to quit their job and move with the other person.
2006-12-27 21:33:43 · answer #2 · answered by Alex J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your not doing any thing wrong then tell him your not and if the other person is his big problem then stop talking to your classmate and how did he find out that the boy liked you before anyway. if you want to keep your marriage then your gonna have to give up the one that your husband thinks is the problem. and you 2 being apart cant be helping this situation maybe you can find a job in the state your husband is working in or some thing.
2006-12-27 22:11:43 · answer #3 · answered by moe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like this separation is hurting your relationship. Living away from each other lends to feeling lonely and insecure. Plus what are you doing talking to an ex., an occasional "hi" when you bump into him is OK..anything else is asking for trouble. You guys need to communicate your feelings more. Its tough being away from your love one. You guys need to sit and talk about what is really the issue that is causing this strain in your relationship. Good Luck.
2006-12-27 21:28:01 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This jealously is just a symptom of the larger problem - married couples are meant to live together. One of you needs to sacrifice and get a job in the other's same location. If not, nothing will get better.
2006-12-27 21:18:18 · answer #5 · answered by morenadancer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, the last thing you do is hook up with male classmates while hubby is out of town.
the only way to gain his trust is by showing him he can trust you.
good luck.
2006-12-27 21:10:48 · answer #6 · answered by BUTTERFLY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
healthy relationships don't see each other a couple of days a month.
one of you quit your job or get a divorce.
2006-12-27 21:09:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont play games tell him how much you love him and if things dont change you cant do it, tell him maybe yall need to move back to the same house
2006-12-27 21:10:49 · answer #8 · answered by Hoss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him like I tell my wife- "I'll give you something to be jealous about".
2006-12-27 21:09:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
start acting jealous back like he is. see how he likes it.
2006-12-27 21:08:48 · answer #10 · answered by kimberly k 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋