What does it mean when they say you have to love yourself before you can love anyone else?

Question

I jusst don't get it, no i don't love myself, nor do i respevt myself, i hate it to be around the public, i feel like i am being stared at..

Answer 1

Someone who doesn't love themselves will be mistreated by others.
This person will not know that a person should not be put down or ridiculed, not respected. This person more then likely dose it to themselves so why not other people do it to them too. Children born into this kind of relationship learns to except these kinds of behaviors. Those who are abusers (men or women) will seek out the people who do not love themselves, so they can continue the abuse.

If a person loves themselves this person if someone puts them down this person who loves themselves is going to say "wait a minute I did not deserve that".
The person who loves themselves just will not tolerate someone else looking down on them or hurting them.

I am sorry you feel this way about yourself. This must be a horrible state of being. Take the time to get to know yourself. I bet you find a heck of a nice person there!

Answer 2

I am not completely sure if it is true, but it means that your self esteem must be healthy in order to be able to truly love others and function on an unselfish level, thinking outside of yourself. When you don't love yourself, even though you are not being egotistical, you still probably think about yourself just as much as an egotistical person, only negative hurtful things rather than things that inflate your ego. But if your self esteem is healthy, it is easier to love and reach out to others. An important part of love is empathy. How can you treat or think about somebody else's (emotional) wounds if you yourself are in pain?

Answer 3

When they say you have to love yourself first,I can really understand,I am 28 now and just now get it...My dad left when I was a baby,then I had a step dad then he left,then mom had a boyfriend who did a lot of damage to me and then my recent ex step dad...I never had any respect for myself and always felt rejected,I started to drink pretty heavy and run the streets,I am seeing a therapist and starting to admit that,I was not respecting myself because I never had a positive male role model and looked for attention any way that I could,even if it meant demeaning myself....Learn to like yourself,realize you have talent,potential and don't have to get negative attention...If your being stared at,it's their problem but,it may just be how you are looking at things....When I felt that way,I had a real chip on my shoulder and thought the world was out to get me.Now,when I talked to men,I demand and expect respect,and,not to be treated the way they would treat a street walker.....You deserve better....

Answer 4

It means that in order for you to love someone else you must love yourself. You have to learn how love yourself before loving others because if you don't, it may end up hurting the person. Just like hurting yourslef.

Answer 5

Because when you get into a relationship, there will be more pressing issues to tackle as a couple than those just about yourself.

Answer 6

guys get sucked into this, there isn't a situation that women can't put u in that wont screw up so to get all the Grey area they can between you and them they invent this crap to make sure that all women could abuse u not just one, they want standards that reflect they can be bi-polar, they can be stupid, they can have you be a rescuer of needy woman, anything they want they have to have you hog tied to make it look easy, they don't want to just do something easy they have to make it so complicated that they can have their lawyer sew up all your loose ends for you in case you whine too much

Answer 7

It's because "You are what you love"

You like other people because you see yourself "in them"

So if you don't love yourself

Definitely, you won't love other people

Hope I helped...