My best friend and her boyfriend have been going out for 6 months.
About five minutes ago she called me asking what to do right after a women looses her virginty, by another virgin.
Im a virgin, so I dont exalty know what to do.
Can you help me?
2006-12-27 12:40:24 · 7 answers · asked by tifaislove21 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If your going to say anything smart or mean then go a **** yourself, im not here to take anyones bullshit.
2006-12-27 12:47:33 · update #1
tell her to put her clothes back on
2006-12-27 12:46:06 · answer #1 · answered by sickofmakinthemgo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm assuming since she called unsure what to do that this wasn't something she planned, it is something that just sort of happened in the heat of the moment.
Chances seem good in that case that the young lady did not use contraception nor practice safe sex.
She could become pregnant. Most home-testing kits will not show this for at least a month. During that time she should abstain from alcohol, smoking, caffeine, any drugs like cold medicines that might not be OK for a baby, and so on.
If she is wanting to prevent any unwanted pregnancy from the unplanned sex, she will probably need to talk to a doctor and get a prescription for a morning after pill. I don't know much about that.
She probably also did not practice safe sex eh?
She needs to have an exam done by a doctor and talk to him about safe sex practices so she does not end up getting AIDS, HPV, clamydia, etc. Some of these diseases are fatal, some make you sterile, and some increase the risk for cancer. Not to mention the responsibility to tell any future potential partner that you have contracted one of these things.
If she is going to be sexually active, she should have an exam every year that includes a pap smear to ensure she is not picking up any sexually transmitted diseases. They do make a vaccine now for human pappilloma virus, which can help prevent this disease which increases the risk for cancer. I would advise getting that if you can -- it's $400 though, so it isn't cheap.
I would also advise getting some form of contraception rather than relying on a morning after pill. A diaphragm might be a good choice if her resources are limited and the sexual encounters are infrequent.
As far as what to do emotionally ... if this was some form of date rape, there are counselors she can talk to about the problem and they can help her decide what to do about it. Or if it was willing, perhaps she needs someone to talk to about her feelings. That would, I assume be you, since it is you she called. Try reflective listening. Read about it first, but this is where you "reflect" back what the person said using your own words. It can help people get a handle on their feelings. Don't parrot her words back verbatim though, as that will just be absurd and insulting. I suggest reading about this method before trying it.
I would also suggest she consider whether this young man is the sort who will stand by her and help her take care of any children that might accidentally result from this union. If not ... she is playing with fire and could end up all on her own with a baby to care for.
2006-12-27 21:15:21 · answer #2 · answered by Rubythorne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U need to ask friend if she is really ready to lose her virginity to this guy! Alot of things can happen and some of them r not so good, for instance he could have sex with her then stop calling her or worse break up with her. How is she so sure that he is a virgin hisself, guys do lie just to get some! Everybody is different if she does decide to have sex with she has to do what feels right to her, not u. Before she does anything at all she needs to be absolutely sure this is the guy she wants to lose her virginity to. 6 months is not a long time, he doesn't care as much for her as a guy that she has been dating for years. Think about it!
2006-12-27 20:48:27 · answer #3 · answered by 2good4hem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm a virgin too, but i honestly i don't there is anything she "needs to do" after having sex. i hope they used protection. if not, she better get to the drug store and take one of those "morning after" pills, unless she wants to be pregnant.
other than that, just tell her to relax and think about what she did. i certainly hope she and her boyfriend were ready for sex, and i hope it will make their relationship better...
if she sounds scared or worried. or if she has doubts that she was really ready for it, then try to comfort her. she is your best friend, and even though she has had sex, she is still your best friend..
most people don't like to talk about intimate details of sex, especially their first time, but if she wants to talk about it, then be there for her and listen..
2006-12-27 21:08:10 · answer #4 · answered by Jeff 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should urinate to dislodge any bacteria that may have entered the urethra and wash as soon as you can. Other than that make sure you are having safe sex. Be careful and don't listen to anyone who puts you down.
2006-12-27 20:55:56 · answer #5 · answered by sexmagnet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say, i dont know what to do. Ask your mom.
2006-12-27 20:58:39 · answer #6 · answered by jack_black_sux 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you dont do nothing your just a s|ut
2006-12-27 20:43:14 · answer #7 · answered by HI!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋