GO INTO DETAIL CUZ IT STILL MAKES YOU CRY....SO IF ANYONE ASKS...and they do..."i just say.."i do not re-live it.."...that USUALLY shuts them up....I WILL not explain because it is too painful to...and they should understand that...BUT THEY DON'T...AND ....anyway...this friend set me up with this guy...Later we went to dinner...all was good i thought UNTIL he started asking me .."did you get any life insurance?"...i stopped for a moment...cuz i was eating...and said"..why would you want to know.Nicely"....he just said ."I am trying to get to know you.."...ok then the conversation shifted to other stuff...when dinner was almost over...he said.."where do you work?"...i told him...then he said..'"do you make good money?"...I politely said "NO"...why would you want to know that"...he just said .." oh, i was just wondering!"...now i am UPSET..things have gone to far...I DO NOT WANT TO SEE HIM ANYMORE..WHAT CAN I SAY WHEN HE CALLS.....???
2006-12-27 12:37:28 · 23 answers · asked by sweet 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if you are trying to be nice about it just tell him that you have thought about it and your not ready to move on yet. Otherwise just tell him you are not interested in him. This guy was pretty money motivated if you ask me.
2006-12-27 12:41:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off, how soon ago this happened? the husband thing? You did say you are newly single. In my opinion you need at least a year to get over your loss.. I too am newly widowed and the last thing in my mind is finding a replacement. I loved my wife dearly and right now I do not see myself in a frame of mind to support a relationship with anyone else.
You need to let time heal you, and no it will never stop hurting , yes people will ask but you can politely say i do not care to talk about it. You should just tell this guy that you do not think is going to work out or that you are not truly ready for a relationship and ask him if he is willing to just be a friend or not whatever you choose and feel confortable with.
But you need to grieve and get yourself emotionally stable before you can move on to a new relationship.
2006-12-27 12:51:55 · answer #2 · answered by Cyrinos 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK, first and foremost I'm sorry to hear about your husband.
Tell that jerk not to call anymore as you do not care to see or even communicate with him (not your friends fault) as he isn't your type, this guy knew the situation and was going to use you in any way that he could. You sound like a smart woman so trust your instincts. I know that your were trying to appease your friend and do this but it isn't necessary, when the right guy comes along you'll feel the chemistry. I wish you the best of luck and may God Bless you.
2006-12-27 13:04:13 · answer #3 · answered by beamer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GOOD GIRL> Get rid of that guy ! When he calls tell him you started seeing another man last night and you feel this other man and you have more in common than you and he. That you don't want to date him anymore and thank him for taking you out and being nice to you. SURE its a little white lie but if you tell him you just don't want to see him , he will hound you death for why ? This way if there is another guy in the picture he knows he is out, and will leave you alone. He don't need to know anything about the other guy. He sounds like he is nosy anyway. Tell him he is at your door and you have to go and hang up...Good luck. It is not dishonest. It is just good tacktics
2006-12-27 12:52:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very simply say to him. I want to thank you for the other evening but I don't see this going anywhere so no thank you.
You need offer no further explanation than that.
He was way out of line with those questions on a first date. In fact even if you were engaged he need not know that. Most assuredly he knew way to much about you already. I would have a talk with who ever set you up.
NEVER EVER feel like you are obligated to see anybody that makes you uncomfortable. You owe them nothing.
2006-12-27 12:48:26 · answer #5 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, sound's like you're being played - how close was this friend of yours that set up the date? What can u say when he calls? ..."I'm not ready, nor interested, sorry!" simple
I'd say someone inquiring about your finances on a first date is a good indication of "inappropriate" intentions, going from 1st base to vip booth season tickets
2006-12-27 12:56:12 · answer #6 · answered by The one with a tail... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a real jerk. Just say that you thought you were ready to start getting out some, but now you're thinking it's just not the right time. So sorry for your suffering, eventually you'll find much more decent people to spend time with.
2006-12-27 12:43:33 · answer #7 · answered by Ceajae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
relatives friendly worker? i do no longer understand what way of existence you're, or why you have those rules. I stay contained in the U. S., and right here it quite is rude to no longer seem somebody contained in the attention even as speaking to them. I do it for all time. to chat to somebody even as finding away is seen rude right here. according to danger the help develop into doing what comes organic. in case you have themes with somebody finding into your spouse's eyes even as speaking to her, you seem to have some jealousy themes. there is not any longer something incorrect with the greater youthful staffer making eye touch even as having a communique. It does no longer imply they're disrespectful. some issues come needless to say. that is going to be complicated to get this factor throughout the time of as some movements are purely widespread and finding somebody contained in the attention is unquestionably one of those computerized movements for many human beings. once you communicate with somebody...the place do you seem?
2016-12-18 20:13:52 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two words--**** OFF! That's' what you tell him. Don't feel bad b/c he's an ***.
You may want to wait juts a bit longer before you start dating--you need to grieve properly. But--even if you did all that, it sounds like guy you went out with is a dick.
Put yourself first right now. You deserve that.
2006-12-27 12:40:55 · answer #9 · answered by kathylouisehall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thank you for a wonderful dinner, but I'm just not ready yet. I can't believe he asked those questions? It's none of anyone's business.
2006-12-27 12:43:30 · answer #10 · answered by elprez14 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋