i have been with my boyfriend for almost 6 years now. For the past year he has been talking so much stuff about me to his mother. He is a momas boy all of a sudden. Mind you that when we first got toghter his mother hated him. did not care if he had food to eat or anything.
Ever sense i had my daughter they got close.
well anyways he calls her when i am not home and he always seems to talk about me and i am about to have our third child and i am so damn sick of it. I really dont like his mother becuase she will only do things for my daugher and not my son, and she claims she likes me and talks crap about me .has anyone else gone through this problem?
2006-12-27 12:36:28 · 14 answers · asked by crazziegrl14 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I have been in a similar situation as far as the mother-in-law goes. My now ex-mother-in-law was usually nice to my face and then ALWAYS talked about me behind my back. My ex-husband used to stand up for me so that helped, but I learned just to keep my distance and only go around her when I had too.
She never gave my daughter attention unless other people were around, and then when my son was born he got even less attention. She has just now started to pay attention to both kids since me and my ex have divorced.
I would say that if your boyfriend is talking bad about you then something needs to be done right away. If he loves you he wouldn't talk like that about you. I would suggest sitting him down and telling him how you feel, and if that doesn't work then consider leaving him.
My ex left 2 days before our son was born, and I had no idea we had problems, but it has turned out to be the best thing. So don't stick it out for the kids....Only stick it out if you both want to be together and if he is willing to stop being such a jerk to you.
2006-12-27 12:51:39 · answer #1 · answered by huggiebear78 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is enjoying the attention he is getting from his mother. It is very sad that he resorts to talking about his own wife just to get her attention. If I were you, I would put the kids to bed and have a serious talk with him. Calmly tell him that it hurts you for him to talk negatively about you. It is disrespectful to you, the mother of his children. In the beginning, I had trouble with my in-laws (I'd go into detail, but it's a LONG story), but I managed to work it out. I hope you can work this out, too. If at all possible, you may need to go to counseling of some sort because he may not see that what he is doing is wrong. I wish you the best of luck...
2006-12-27 12:44:46 · answer #2 · answered by herefordsun 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-19 01:42:09 · answer #3 · answered by scharber 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He and his mother both need to grow up and act like adults. You need to tell him that the 2 of you and your kids including are a team, he should never talk crap about you and should always stick up for you. I've been in situations similar where I felt like my boyfriend and his family were almost ganging up on me when he should have been on my side. It hurts and it's hard. it's even worse when you treat them better than their own family does. Maybe he's doing it for his mothers acceptance...freaking men! Good luck hun:o)
2006-12-27 12:44:26 · answer #4 · answered by ashleylynne_84 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
oh man-I was in a situation like this for 10 long years--his mother NEVER changed.
good luck.
he needs to step away from his mother & live his life
2006-12-27 12:43:47 · answer #5 · answered by Shellberry 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
o.k.
Let's be real. YOU must put yourself in his space.
It is not about you.
YOU will never make your husband not like his mom.
YOU must become the cheerleader for his mom.
YES trust me. YOU don't want to come in between his
mom and him.
YOU will earn his respect when YOU decide to accept his
mother.
JUST ask yourself this question: Would you want another
women coming between YOU and your son?
Accept his mom and say nothing but nice things about
her, you win. NO Matter what. .. Take the high road.
Question answered.
2006-12-27 12:48:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
you shoud confront your man and tell him how you feel... he has that key that can make it all go away. he should realise who was there putting food on the table when she would not care... tell him that you and your son are just as important. tell him to be a MAN.
good luck hon xx
2006-12-27 12:46:58 · answer #7 · answered by ruthybabe 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
talk to his mom in a daughter in law to mother in law way how this is making you feel and ask her why she is this way...maybe shes like this because she feels like you've taken her precious son away from her(you know...sorta like marie and debra on everybody loves raymond-that seems realistic) or maybe she feels as if her son made a mistake marrying you. but ask her the reason for this attitude towards you and tell her why you feel it is wrong. talk to her one on one and same with your husband and then talk to them both. =] hope i was of any help =]
2006-12-27 12:41:40 · answer #8 · answered by Nini S 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Why are you still having kids with him as your boyfriend? If after the first one he wouldn't marry you, move on. Now with the 3rd one on the way, you are really stuck. Talk to them. Talk to him. Talk to your mom.
Figure out how to move on with your life and still have him part of his kids life.
2006-12-27 12:46:32 · answer #9 · answered by sllcone 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I HAVE DEFINITLEY BEEN THROUGH IT!!!!!!!!! MY BABIES ***** OF A GRANDMOTHER IS RIDICULOUS TO ME! ALL I CAN TELL YOU TO DO IS WHAT I DID. TALK TO YOUR BF AND LET HIM KNO THAT WHATEVER THE HELL HER PROBLEM IS SHE NEEDS TO GET OVER IT. YOU GUYS HAVE THREE CHILDREN 2GETHER AND HE WANTS TO WAIT TIL NOW TO LET BE A MAMAS BOY LET HIM KNO THAT HE NEEDS TO GROW THE HELL UP AND BE A MAN, BE THEIR FOR YOU AND TELL HIS MOTHER THAT IF SHE DOESN'T HAE ANYTHING GOOD TO SAY ABOUT YOU AND IF SHE CANT TRAT YOUR CHILDREN EQUALLY THAN SHE NEEDS TO JUST STAY AWAY!!!!!!! GOOD LUCK AND BE STRONG******
2006-12-27 12:47:21 · answer #10 · answered by Live.Laugh.Love 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋