If you cheated in the past on your partner would you tell?

Question

If you cheated on your mate a couple years ago and they had no idea would you tell them I had a friend who did and it didnt go to well.

Answer 1

No- not if it happened in the past. Swear to yourself not to do it again and spend every minute thanking that he didn't find out and kick you to the curb.
There is no reason to hurt him by telling him now- if you never intend for it to happen again and if he doesn't ask you directly.
If he asks directly- you have to fess up.

Answer 2

First of all I wouldn't cheat; why bother being IN a realationship if it means that little to you and secondly if I had I couldn't keep from telling them because I am very loyal and the guilt would eat at me until I was honest with them. I feel I need to be held responsible for my own actions and would have to deal with the consequences of a misdeed like that, good or bad. I definitely would not create some imaginary friend or blame a real friend, but that is me. Whomever this is you or a friend you or they have to live with what is right or wrong for you and yours and the person involved knows the particular situation and people involved better than I do. Try to live and treat people the way you want to be treated. Good luck. Either way chosen will not be easy.

Answer 3

Cheating is the worst thing you can do in a relationship if you want to be with that person forever. You should always tell your partner if you cheated. Nothing good ever comes from cheating. It's the biggest mistake you will ever make. Just think about it this way would you want to go on being with someone if they told you they cheated on you. Especially if you leave a timespan between when you cheated and when you tell the person that you cheated. The other person deserves to know what you did. Hopefully they will be the kind of person who will give you a second chance. But if you wait a couple of years to tell them believe me it's not gonna go well when you reveal that secret to them.

Answer 4

Well, 3 years ago, I kissed my husbands best friend. We flirted alot and sent text messages back and forth. He pissed me off one night here a couple of months ago, and wouldnt leave me alone. We havent ever done anything other then kiss, and we havent even flirted for the last year. He told me to repay him for a favor he did for my husbands suprise party, I needed to do a sexual favor for him. I was so pissed, I told my husband that we kissed and about the conversations we had. Like I said, this happened 3 years ago, and I just told him a few months ago. He was upset, and hurt, yes. But we had a long discussion about it. We have been through a lot in the past 5 years of marriage, and we decided we could get over this speed bump just like any other. Things have been awesome ever since. We have come to this point in our marriage where we tell eachother every little detail of every day. No matter how big or small. A lot of secrets have come out, but it has made us stronger, and our love has just gotten better. Good luck with your ordeal. I hope it works out for the best like mine.

Answer 5

A couple of years ago, huh? Why would you tell about something that happened a couple of years ago?

You screwed up. You live with it. You find a way to deal with it. The only reason I can think of to tell about it is to make yourself feel better.

If it's been a couple of years and you're not doing it any more then just let it go. Forgive yourself and move on. If you're still doing this stuff then you need help.

Answer 6

That's tough since your past has a way of catching up to you. Do you want it to come from you or do you want him to find out thru others? Seems like you're still feeling guilty and remorseful. There is no good outcome to this scenario. Be ready to end your relationship if you tell, or be able to live with the guilt and remorse, you choose.

Answer 7

Hypothetically speaking I would do the one I love a favor if I cheated on him by just breaking up with him. If he asked me why, I would refuse to tell unless he insisted.

How would you feel if your partner cheated on you and you never knew about it or worse yet...they heard it from someone else.

Answer 8

well i have to tell you i feel bad for this guy. he is probably thinking that he has a good thing going. but why wait so long to tell. that just makes it worse. just so you know secrets always have a way of coming out and this secret will too. he may want out of the relationship and i don't blame him. but i'm sorry i just find cheating so selfish and irresponsible it is what immature ppl do.i guess you get as good as you gave right! tell him its going to hurt him i hope you do know that.

Answer 9

If you tell them, the relationship might be done with. If you don't tell them, it will eat away at you until your relationship is dead anyway. What if you contracted a disease and your partner got it? I would feel awful if I had kept that big of a secret. It may be a good idea to give honesty a shot and then see what fate does!

Answer 10

No, if you regret that it ever happened and you swear that it would never happen again, then why hurt him by telling him? What good would come of it? Now however it he were to ask you it you've ever cheated on him, then that's another story.

Answer 11

Why? Would you really want to know if it was the other way round? Do you want to hurt your mate? Go on then. Tell them now. It's all in the past. Gone. Done. Forgotten. SO FORGET IT!!!!