I sure ate my words, didn't i?
2006-12-27 12:33:19 · 21 answers · asked by hauntedheart25 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'd rather be a cheater...
2006-12-27 12:35:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
To tell you the truth i'd rather be an old unmarried spinster than live with a chronic alcoholic or a cheater. Alcoholoism almost always ends up in violence in relationships. If you can get him/her off the alcohol or to AA meetings that would be great.
2006-12-27 20:36:57 · answer #2 · answered by Jesse's Girl 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Neither are good for you. My father is an alcoholic. He left me and my mother when I was 2 years old. He chose alcohol over his own family. He was physically, mentally and emotionally abusive. They are no good. Things will get pretty bad. Get out of the relationship. Move on and find yourself a good guy. Cheaters arent good either. Find someone who is loyal and not addicted to any kind of drug. Good luck, hope it all works out for you.
2006-12-27 20:37:20 · answer #3 · answered by countrygirl66032 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Words have power! Why would you speak something like that into existence. (My people parish for lack of knowledge) Life has got to be tough for you. Best advice I could give here is treatment is not an option for your husband but a must, he's got to get some help or you're in for a hard, lonely, miserable life. Best advice for you is watch what you say next time.
2006-12-27 20:58:47 · answer #4 · answered by spirit2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure what the question is but, sounds like you did. Have you talk with your partner about his problem. Maybe he needs a push in the right direction or maybe you're looking for someone to tell you that it's ok to make mistakes/misjugdements. Even if it's more than one. I hope things get better for you. Find someone you can talk to about this.
2006-12-27 20:37:29 · answer #5 · answered by flowerchild12345 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and I are in the same boat. Went in a different direction with #2 and found myself back in the same place emotionally. The big thing for both of us now is to realize -as the others have pointed out - that we can can be selfish ourselves and take care of person #1, our selves.
2006-12-28 00:19:14 · answer #6 · answered by allisoneast 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to Alcoholics Anonymous family support. I'm sure there is one in your area. They'll give you some guidance and you'll have friends who share your hurt.
You can change things for yourself.
2006-12-27 20:38:19 · answer #7 · answered by mosaic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has got to get help i relate to you because my e-boyfriend had a drinking problem&drug problem.I could not understand it because he would still go to work everyday.But when he started asking me to lend him money that was it.And when i caught him comong out of the drug house that was defently the last straw.He dranked like a fish he did not want to change & i was miserable so i day when he came home from work i asked him to find somewhere to go it was over..............So i know how it is good luck.............................
2006-12-27 20:43:08 · answer #8 · answered by lyndee222 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sure did.Now you need to get out of that situation.Even though one is no better than the other,In my opinion alcoholics are worse.And very much more abusive.Get out now.
2006-12-28 21:02:07 · answer #9 · answered by Willnotlietoyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I live with a alcoholic too, and we fight all the time. Its no fun and its not fare. She needs to buy and drink her own beer!
2006-12-27 20:36:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
honey you need a esteem check why would you want to live with either of those> find yourself somebody who's going to respect you but you have to respect and love yourself first.
2006-12-27 20:38:43 · answer #11 · answered by superduperchef45 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋