My husband works at a ditribution center...in a freezer...he wears old clothes...and heavy sweatshirts...today I come home from work...which is when he leaves for work.....he said he has to work on dry side...which means like bananas...which doesn't require him to wear sweatshirts...okay fine...well he has a descent shirt on ...ok...jeans...but still has his nasty work shoes on...he has a burned dvd in his hand that he says he copied for one of his co-workers....I just find all of this odd...am I jumping to conclusions...I don't want to ask/accuse...
2006-12-27 12:25:51 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I should have also told you all that last January he was chatting and had exchanged phone numbers with another female....gave him his moms #
2006-12-27 12:36:16 · update #1
also if this helps with an answer...when we are in "bed"....he now kisses me very roughly...and does other things that he normally doesn't do...when it comes to the "bed"
2006-12-27 12:41:14 · update #2
Jumping. Unless you have some other signs to report I suggest you relax. My "cheater alarms" just aren't sounding.
Wives do tend to know before they know though, so do keep your antenna up.
2006-12-27 12:31:04 · answer #1 · answered by outdone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U sound a little paranoid, unless he has given u reason to suspect him of cheating before. Marriage means trust and u do not sound like u have any, did u stop and think that maybe he is actually telling the truth? If he was cheating on you, why did he let u see the dvd instead of hiding it in the car or something? Then u say that u don't want to ask him or accuse him, u can start a conversation without accusing him. Start by asking him if he feels that maybe u two have some problems that u need to address or just tell him that u want to talk about ur relationship. Remember there is always more than one way to do things.
2006-12-27 20:35:57 · answer #2 · answered by 2good4hem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yup you are jumping. I too work at a distribution center. if I don't have to be in the warehouse I may dress up a bit, nice blouse, earrings and such, and I may still end up in the warehouse because someone went home sick. I just like to put something other than a t-shirt/sweat shirt. I'm sure guys do too. big deal he brought a burned cd/dvd maybe he really did copy for a co-worker big deal. Does not mean cheating.
2006-12-27 20:31:12 · answer #3 · answered by Pandora 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men do like to be tidy sometimes you know. And burning a dvd for a friend is by no means unusual.
If he has changed his working environment then there will be a lot of pressure to conform with his new work group. One way is to dress the same as the others. (Thats why office workers, particuary men, dress the same).
The DVD? He is trying to get accepted in his new group by showing he is friendly and prepared to do favors.
2006-12-27 20:36:50 · answer #4 · answered by philip_jones2003 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So when he gets home ask him about how the dry side was.
This is one time? Sounds like you are jumping to conclusions.. but we need a little more info. Been suspecting awhile? Odd behavior? Home late with no excuse alot?
Impossible for an outsider to decide anything other than you are a teensy bit paranoid? Dont worry so much... wait it out awhile! It sounds fine!!
2006-12-27 20:29:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First has he done this be for? has he been getting phone calls MORE THAN HE USELY DOES.ACTING STRANGE.acting driffent if not maybe you are jumping the gun just keep your eyes open . hey do you trust him?will i just read yousaid he been doing this since january and gave his mom no to her and his is this right . no way this is right have you said any thing to him.if so i,m sure he came up with some thig good huh . me no way i would stay with him no no blank noway
2006-12-27 20:38:13 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe youre being too presumptious. Maybe it is what he says, if you dont feel like it is look at his other behaviors. Ive been told that cheaters will change other little behaviors.. cologne, extra good hygiene, does he seem nervous? Does he come home a little later than usual, or does he leave earlier than usual? Confront him if you cant satisfy your worried mind.
2006-12-27 20:29:55 · answer #7 · answered by PenguinsWife 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From the information you have given- yes...you are jumping to conclusions. You should admit to having some jealous feelings and have him help clear the situation up.
Good luck.
2006-12-27 20:29:06 · answer #8 · answered by Mommyk232 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He could be telling you the truth it is not unheard of. It is possible you are jumping to conclusions if it is really bothering you, you need to ask...I know you don't want to but I mean if it keeps eating at you, you may not have a choice.
Good Luck~
2006-12-27 20:30:05 · answer #9 · answered by Danielle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that is enough info to build a case. He could have been burning a CD for a friend. There's nothing wrong with that. But if you feel suspicious at all I would keep my eyes open.
2006-12-27 20:28:43 · answer #10 · answered by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋