I just don't know what's wrong with me, it's like I'm socially inept, or something. I can never seem to say the "right" thing, when it comes to conversations with people. Either my words come out jumbled, or I just say something stupid and nonsensical, altogether. It's really pathetic. Even when I try to flirt, I end up sounding like a freak. I don't know what to do... I spend so much time regretting everything that I say/do, it's really tiring...
2006-12-27 12:18:58 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Unfortunately, everyone is not blessed with the gift of saying the right thing at the right time. Just remember sometimes less is more. If you aren't sure what to say or how to say it, take a minute and think before you open your mouth. If at that point, it still doesn't seem fitting -- don't say anything all. I don't know about everyone else but I have a lot of respect for people who know when to stop talking.
2006-12-27 12:23:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sheesh. Don't be so hard on yourself. I feel akward around large groups of people and do more listening than talking until I am comfortable. This way you will be speaking with your mind and not on adrenalin and nerves. Flirting can be tough an shy people too. Remember, people love a good listener, so don't try so hard.
2006-12-27 12:24:42 · answer #2 · answered by daisyjzmum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just falow the coversation as it gos don't put on or take off some times is better to keep mouth shut and not to say somethin that you know is not gonna be funny or that somebody will turn it around and make fun of it is like being in court you only answer the judge questions with a yes or a no try that and that my work.........
2006-12-27 12:45:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being so hard on yourself. What is the right or wrong thing to say? It's all someone's opinion, and your opinion of yourself is far too low. Keep talking.
2006-12-27 12:21:42 · answer #4 · answered by Rowicz 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i share your pain. what i do now is i just talk when it's necessary. you make less social mistakes that way. be nice to people you meet as best as you can or sometimes in moderation, we dont want to overdo it and give away signs of insecurity. and if they still bad mouth about you and think they are better than you, just tell yourself they are just miserable people with problems. believe me they are miserable poeple with the problems. it's them, not you. everyone will know that one day so dont worry.
2006-12-27 12:35:59 · answer #5 · answered by listlessbutdiligent 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to learn the art of listening, learn to give short responses to questions and feel free to ask but try to avoid always throwing out your opinions observe others conversate with each other soon youll start to catch on
2006-12-27 12:37:46 · answer #6 · answered by el chavo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Engage brain before opening mouth, and as Thumper's mother said "If you've nothing worth saying, say nothing".
2006-12-27 12:23:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe you are trying to hard and thinking too much about what you are going to say . too many ideals will do that to you .
2006-12-27 12:22:06 · answer #8 · answered by gentjim26 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You just don't understand that people are people and just be cool................You are trying to make such a good impression that you are not yourself....act normal and you will be normal............think normal and you will act normal
2006-12-27 12:27:35 · answer #9 · answered by ginny3282 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well 1st off, how old are you.
at 1st of course it can be all "blah"
just kinda practice on it.
soon you'll get it :)
good luck
2006-12-27 12:22:04 · answer #10 · answered by lil missy peep 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋