Should I be mad?

Question

I asked my bandmate to come email a friend because I was in the hospital this morning. He snoops around my email and answers account and finds out a lot of things about me he didnt know. Should I still be upset? How do I talk to him about what happened and what he found out?

Answer 1

dont get mad, get glad

Answer 2

What was his intention behind "snooping?" Was it to be nasty or mean, was it just good old fashioned curiosity? It sounds like you had something to hide, maybe your bandmate sensed that and just wanted to know. What ever the reason, he shouldn't have snooped. That was your own private information. No one should force you to share something you are not ready too, unless you're getting interrogated by the police for something and that is a totally different story, but you get my point.

As far as being mad at your friend; go back to the "intention" behind the act. It really isn't worth it to loose a friend/band mate over something petty, and why get mad over something you can't change. On the other hand, if this person was snooping to be sneaky and nasty, don't get mad, just put some distance between you two.

Answer 3

That is such a creepy feeling. You obviously trusted the guy. I'd be furious. You want to make it clear that what he did was not merely annoying but cruel as well. If you feel you can forgive him, do it but don't let him off the hook too easy. Snooping through your personal thoughts was a foul thing to do.

Answer 4

Yes you should be upset because he invaded your privacy... But then again, you allowed him into your email account. But still, he should have just emailed your friend and not look through your email. As for your last question, you owe him no explanation about any of your emails.

Answer 5

Its Ok to be upset, but just for a while. Talk to your bandmate and tell him or her how you feel about what he did. Then you can change your password and dont send him to your mailbox ever again.

Answer 6

I'd be mad. When you talk to him, tell him you had trusted him to send the message to your friend while you were in the hospital. I'd tell him that you are really hurt that he betrayed your trust. Hopefully that will open the conversation and if he is a true friend, he will be remorseful and apologize to you.

Hope this helps! And I hope you are doing okay!

Answer 7

You don't need to explain a thing to him. Your private business is your own. I would be a little upset, yes, but not enough that i couldn't forgive him. a lot of people snoop. just don't give him access again and don't worry about it.

Answer 8

I would be furious!!! I don't like snoops. Tell him straight out I asked you to e-mail my friend not snoop around in my personal things.

Answer 9

You have every right to be mad at him because you never gave him permission to look at your email and yahoo answers. I would never trust him again for any favors again. Next time don't save your passwords on your PC.

Answer 10

yes -but act like it's all cool and totally ask him the questions u want - - keep it cool though - obviously u made a mistake in trusting this person - really can't blame him for being an *******
too bad he was so ignorant - just remember that for the future.
good luck

Answer 11

yeah u should be real mad cause if u ask someone to do something that is ur friend u not thinking that they are going to go through ur things. this is what i would do i would tell him/her that we need to talk about something important and by ourself when we get along i would tell him/her that i didn't like the fact the they went through my things and that wasn't the thing to do and then i would ask them how would they feel if i went through their things and found out something that they didn;t want anybody to know and see what type of answer you get ou tof them and then take it from there or you can just express your feelings about it and learn that u can't always have ppl going through your things without them being nosey