i have a friend that comfuses me, we HAVE FIGHTS LIKE 5 TIMES A DAY! im in middle school and at school she pisses me of because she acts like i hate her. one time on the bus to school she said her aunt had a farm in their backyard, so I giggled and she started to cry-so the whole time at school she ignored me(not like i really cared...) but we go to an after school care and she dosnt have any friends but i do, she dosnt like that girl either. so at afterschool care she cries like crap so i just let her be my friend again. and of couse she does it again the next day. like i invite her too go to the beach with me and the fair, etc. and yet she never says thank you and she has NEVER does anything in return like inviting me anyware. not even the mall or the movies.
2006-12-27 12:10:56 · 18 answers · asked by peace maker 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
she annoys you but yet you let her win by her crying, maybe you can talk to her and tell her how she can get friends and keep them, and its not by crying to get people to pay attention to her. and to get mad at everything that said and done, and next time she picks a fight with you. just walk away. and let her think. I think its time to stop holding her hand. she is no friend, because true friends don't act like that. good luck.
2006-12-27 12:20:03 · answer #1 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you need to tone down your language young lady. Ladies do not speak like that. You should talk to your friend and tell her in a quiet manner, "why doesn't she ever say" "thank you". She may have never been taught manners. So be her friend and teach her by example. And maybe she doesn't invite you to the mall or the movies because she is not able to. Her parents may not be as nice or loving and caring as yours. You need to sit down and speak with your friend and remember that she is your friend. Find out what is going on that is allowing her feelings to be hurt so that she cries. And ask her why she was ignoring you, tell her your feelings are also hurt. Good luck and God bless****
2006-12-27 12:23:08 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as though your friend has emotional/personality problems. You are not responsible for her feelings and she sounds as though she is trying to manipulate you into taking care of her. Set very clear boundaries and limits to protect yourself. If she tries to tell you tht you have done something wrong to hurt her, examine the issue for yourself and if you really havent then tell her you care about her but that she will have to take responsibility for her own feelings. The key is, if you feel bad through associating with her, then it is better for you to eventually eliminate her from your life. It doesn't mean you don't care, it means you have recognised the extent of your own power in this relationship and that you need to take care of yourself first.
She will either respond in a healthy way to your new boundaries and limits or will leave you alone over time and go on to find someone else to manipulate.
Good luck! You deserve better. Relationships shouldbe mostly happy and any relationship that causes so much confusion is toxic and not worth the trouble. Remember, you are not responsible for her - she is, but you are responsible for yourself and you need to do everything in your power to maintain your own state of happiness.
2006-12-27 12:18:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently you are her only friend. Try to be more understanding of her 'quirks' and be there for her.
Do not ever give a 'gift' and expect something in return. A gift is a present from the heart. You have done nice things for her from your heart because you are a good person. Don't expect anything in return, and you won't get your feelings hurt.
2006-12-27 12:16:48 · answer #4 · answered by debi_0712 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get her another grl 2 use. seems like she doesnt have the greatest home life or alot of money so shes using u 2 explore the town and have fun and get a life. either shake her loose or help her out, maybe talk 2 her see how she really feels and tell her how u feel. if she keeps using u then get her a new friend
2006-12-27 12:20:49 · answer #5 · answered by dauschaundlovers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you hurt her feelings.. apologize. If you feel that she doesn't include you in things then tell her. If she has no friends then make it a point to introduce her to yours. It's all very simple. Treat her as you would like to be treated and tell her that you would like the same. Ask her to start over with a new and thoughtful relationship as great friends.
2006-12-27 12:16:41 · answer #6 · answered by mosaic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just like one of my friends, I know how you feel. My friend and I get in fights a lot, too. I don't really concider her my friend anymore since she treated me like crap, and always wanted me to feel bad for her. So, whenever she wanted to hang out, I said I couldn't, and we grew apart like THAT.
2006-12-27 12:45:46 · answer #7 · answered by The Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you need to take a break. She may burst into tears just to use you, which it sounds like she's doing. Don't let her crying affect you, she needs to learn.
2006-12-27 12:14:15 · answer #8 · answered by cowgirl91 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either she is using you for company. Or you using her for a power trip.
Do some serious thinking and ask again.
2006-12-27 12:15:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should try not offending her (and yourself) again. try to understand her feelings and know the boundaries you'll need to reach for her not to think you hate her. remember, he who annoys you controls you.
try to keep ur relationship with her up and doing, by avoinding fights and quarrels.
Did you know you can always appologise(even if you're not wrong), in other for your relationship to be stable.
2006-12-27 12:18:35 · answer #10 · answered by redeemedmikel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋