Ok this is sort of R rated but why are some males gay and some females lesbian?

Question

Ok I have a boy friend and we never had sex yet but when we make out I kind of touch him over his clothes somewhere and he touches me too and I like it and I cant understand how two males or two females could feel all warm and fuzzy with each other. I have girl friends but I dont think I could ever like them that way.

Answer 1

The way that you feel about guys is the same way I feel about guys, and I could never like a girl the way I like guys. I don't understand how guys and girls can be together because it is not a feeling that I share, just as you feel about gay relationships. To me, being gay is a natural feeling and to be with someone of the opposite sex would seem unnatural and uncomfortable. As to why some guys are gay and some girls are lesbians, there has been a lot of studies done on it and most scientists believe it is genetic and people are born gay. Also, there have been a lot of animals that have been observed being gay and since animals do not 'choose' to be gay it is the same for humans.

Answer 2

The fact is, some men are gay and some females are lesbian because they are born that way. I should know, I am gay. Of course it seems hard for you to understand how it would feel to be with someone of the same sex, you're not a lesbian! Scientists are finding that homosexuality is something you are born with. It's pretty complicated, but basically it is an inherited trait and a person's orientation is actually determined about 3 months before birth. Gay people are biologically programmed to prefer the same sex, just as straight people are programmed to prefer the opposite sex. I know this is hard for many people to understand, but the reason it is taking so long for people to accept is because it has been looked down upon for so many years. The truth is, it's completely normal.

Answer 3

There is an area of the brain that determines sexual orientation. In males this part of the brain is large, in females it's much smaller. Some studies have shown that this area is smaller than ussual in gay males and larger than ussual in lesbiens. So, it seems that gender identification and sexual orientation is biological instead of learned. That, if true, should bring up all kinds of new debate concerning guilt, sin, right and wrong, etc. as espoused by religion and society. It may be our sexual identity is predetermined. So, since you are heterosexual you would only be comfortable in a physical sense with another heterosexual male. Touching another female would probably be a big turn off. But, all the evidence is not in yet, and probably never will be.

Answer 4

You are straight, and your reactions to straight sex are normal. But being gay is more than just enjoying the sex. It is about having an emotional connection with your partner. Gender plays a role in finding a lover, which is why you don't fall in love with your female friends (no matter how awesome they are!) The "warm fuzzy" feeling comes from an emotional attachment. As for sex, friction can get anyone off--- but gender can stop someone from loving someone else.

Answer 5

The question is about the same as "Why do some people like pasta, and others don't".

Some will say that it is because they were born that way, some say environment. There is no real proof for either.

But, in the end: what someone else does in the privacy of their bedroom doesnt affect you. So the best thing is to just shrug it off and let them enjoy what they enjoy.

(And as a straight male, I still have no clue why women like men at all, but I am not stupid enough to convince them otherwise...)

Answer 6

I don't understand WHY YOU FEEL YOU NEED TO UNDERSTAND IT? Its just a fact of life, we didn't ask to feel this way, we just DO. Trust me, if I could have led a straight, easy, boring life, I would have. There would have been such less hassle, everyone would have been sooo much happier and I wouldn't have had to worry about disappointing everyone! BUT I DIDN'T HAVE A CHOICE, no one asked me if I wanted to like guys this way, ITS JUST SOMETHING I'VE ALWAYS HAD TO DO. That's right, HAD TO DO. You think I didn't pray, plead and beg God to change?

But you know what? God doesn't make trash, no matter what others might think. It took me 28 years to love myself and I do, and I don't give a d**n what anyone else thinks, says or cares, my family loves me more than ever and knows. All the worry was for nothing.

So, before you start asking "why" stop and consider we might have spent more time wondering WHY than you! In the end, we have to accept WHO WE ARE, BECAUSE IT IS, WHO WE ARE! And you cannot change who you are, have you ever tried?

Good question, btw.

Answer 7

That's because your not a lesbian. Certain people in this world are born attracted sexually to men or a women. Whether it be man/man or women/women just like you, you are attracted to a male. In other words it's all in who you are attracted too. If you aren't attracted to a women you won't understand it to begin with. You don't have gay tendencies. Your tendencies are more to a man. Your attracted to men. It is what is is, so there's really no use in trying to figure it out.

Answer 8

that's because you aren't a lesbian, so why would you feel attracted to them the same way you feel to your boyfriend.

everyone is different. some people like this others like that.

people are attracted to who they are attracted to.
I don't think that is too hard to understand.

Answer 9

Just because you don't understand something, that doesn't mean it doesn't exist. I'll bet you don't understand Chinese either, but that doesn't mean other people don't. You aren't the center of the universe, there, sweetie.

Answer 10

Something happens and they become that way.
I don't believe anyone is born that way, truly.