we live in a small apartment and she is over here almost every day. my bedroom, which is on the other side of my sons is where I spend alot of time reading, etc... our rooms are attached to the small living room also...you can basically hear everything in almost every room in the house (we are looking for a larger apartment)... anyway...I want to be fair and let him have his girlfriend over, but I am a very private person, and love my privacy.... I feel that if she comes over two or three times a week it is more than fair..."she also sleeps over several times a week"... please let me know what you think...
thanks...
2006-12-27 11:49:45 · 10 answers · asked by amber 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Tell him what you just told us... That was perfect the way you said it... You tell him that you enjoy your privacy and she can come over 2 to 3 times a week (which is fair) but that is it... Instead of her always coming over to your house, he can go over to her house the other half of the week... And if you don't like her spending the night, tell him that too... If they want to spend the night together, it would be safe to say that they are ready to live together... Therefore, they should begin to consider investing in a home together... Hope it helps...
2006-12-27 12:04:40 · answer #1 · answered by Phoenix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, ahh i would say.. if it's for reasons more then just staying the night together then thats fine, like a ride to work or plans in the morning.. but on nights that they for sure don't have to be up for anything then why couldn't she stay at home.. why can't he go stay at her house for a few of the nights? i dont' know i would kinda feel bad if i had to do that.. i would just explain that if he wants her there everynight then their gonna have to start paying on rent too, even if it's only 200$ a month.. it will help you get out of there faster and into a bigger apartment.. and i wouldn't want the g/f to think i dislike her, but that i just need more time alone and for it to be quiet.. good luck and best wishes! hope you have a very happy new year!
2006-12-27 11:55:46 · answer #2 · answered by ~broken~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How much rent does your son pay you? Does he pay half of all the bills including rent and utilities? And do you divide things three ways for the time that his girlfriend is there?
Your house ... your rules. If your 18 year old son and his girlfriend need that kind of space then they also need jobs and their own apartment.
2006-12-27 11:54:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all if she is sleeping there several times a week she needs to start paying rent and be put on the lease, otherwise when you landlord finds out all THREE of you can be evicted. I suggest you either find a larger place ASAP or tell your son and his girlfirend they have to find another place to sleep together. Especially if it means the possilbity of being out on your butt.
2006-12-27 11:53:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you pay the bills you make the rules, and he will either abide to them or he will find his own, If my son tried to do that to me I would tell him to rent a room at the local motel, I don't run a brothel from my home.
2006-12-27 11:55:18 · answer #5 · answered by bootjack 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him to tell his girlfriend to just stay on week-ends this way you have your quite time and spend time with your son during the week and the girlfriend has the week-end which gives everyone their own time & privacy.
2006-12-27 11:58:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 or 3 times a week is fair. what's not is you having to listen to your son and his gf having sex. Yuck!!! i think you better move quick or make him get his own place.
2006-12-27 11:53:46 · answer #7 · answered by Ms Berry Picker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she's sleeping over and keeps on doing it tell her to pay the one third of the rent cause that is ridiculous
2006-12-27 12:47:07 · answer #8 · answered by j.j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her kepp doing what shes doing I think it is fair because think back on when you had a boyfriend..... didnt you like to see him alot?
2006-12-27 11:54:21 · answer #9 · answered by Savannah H 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Decide what makes you comfortable. If he's living in your home, no matter what his age, he has to live by your rules.
2006-12-27 11:53:41 · answer #10 · answered by booktender 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋