He rarely takes more than one shower a week and sometimes stretches it to two weeks, I haven't seen him brush his teeth in months and he has not cut his hair in more than a year. He goes to work everyday, but his regimine is to shave, and wash face, and pits and splash on aftershave and rinse with mouthwash and thats it. He also likes to "take the blame" for everything and anything and gets angry more easily than he ever has before... He is becoming very hard to like.
2006-12-27 11:47:39 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like he's lost his lust for life. If it was really a sudden thing, I'd say he broke up with his mistress. But probably mid-life crisis is the culprit - if you can't revitalize his "interests", try introducing something new to his life, whether it be a vacation, adventurous hobby, or new adult toys (motorcycle, etc..). Any chance of finding out what's going on at work (if anything)? Does he HAVE to continue there?
2006-12-27 12:04:10 · answer #1 · answered by The one with a tail... 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a M.S. in counseling and sounds like depression to me. You can google symptoms of depression which some include irritability, changes in eating, sleeping habits, becoming withdrawn, etc. The thing is, you don't have control in the situation to be able to make someone recognize they have a problem. The only thing you have control over is how you react to that person's behavior. If all else fails, try having what is called an "intervention" which includes a mental health professional, and a few small very close friends and family that can each tell your husband how much he needs help and there is help waiting for him. Hope this helps!
2006-12-27 13:34:23 · answer #2 · answered by Melissa P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oo a trucker shower! lol. Have you guys gone anywhere nice latley? Maybe he would be motivated if you did. Or you could offer him to join you in the shower when you take one. Just try everything before you start to give up. After being married 30 years Im sure things have gotten routin and you forget all the little things. Maybe he just figures whats the point. Who knows, try some stuff and see if it works.
2006-12-27 11:52:22 · answer #3 · answered by serena3116 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he should go to the doctor. He could be going through some type of mental breakdown. This is not normal behavior for one to just start overnight. There could be a chemical imbalance in his brain which is causing him to act irrationally like this. If I were you I would insist on going with or call and speak to the doctor first before he goes.
2006-12-27 11:54:14 · answer #4 · answered by Sally B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-04-22 10:04:44 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I asked this question 8 years ago! This is what i have learned in the time since then. I is not up to me to entice him sexually, it is not up to me to remind him he smells nice after a shower, it is not up to me to constanly nag him to look after himself, and it is not up to me to make sure he cares for himself. Nagging and cajoling and begging doesn't work! I decided to move into a seperate room an am happy and comfortable, we no longer have a sexual relationship but we live together and share a home and finances with reasonable civility.... He still is a slob and he still gets angry without reason, i go to my room turn on some music and let him rave to the wind and rain.... Works for me.
2014-09-26 02:22:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to get to a physician asap. What you describe could be anything from a mental illness to G*d-knows-what.
My biggest concern is that he may be depressed. Personal hygiene often goes first with a person in clinical depression.
If he won't go to the doctor himself, get to counseling for you to learn how to deal with this behavior.
2006-12-27 11:52:08 · answer #7 · answered by booktender 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be depression. I assume you've talked to him about it?
If he hasn't responded to your mentioning it, I would reframe it as a marital quality of life issue. Tell him you're worried about him because he's getting angry so easily, perhaps he's under too much stress. If he claims he has a right to be that way, then get tougher, and tell him you don't want to be married to someone who doesn't care for himself. Suggest counseling together. If he won't, go alone, and use the time and counselor to figure out what to do.
2006-12-27 11:50:21 · answer #8 · answered by Singinganddancing 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Give him praise when he does things like a new puppy. You smell so great after a shower. I love being next to you right after a refreshing shower. When he wants somthing let him know that he need to brush his teeth first so that his breath is sweeter.
2006-12-27 11:56:57 · answer #9 · answered by ronnny 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's what 30 years of marriage does to a man. He's lost his will to be alive and happy. He probably feels like a hampster in a cage.
Oh, I know...!!! Get him a really hott hooker. I bet he'll clean up for that. Strange nookie works wonders for this type of depression.
2006-12-27 11:56:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋