I used to have a crush on this one guy. After I learned more about his personality I got over it even though nothing ever happened between us. My best friend knew and told her boyfriend and considering the fact that we have the same circle of friends sure enough everyone is going to know about it. What bothers me most isn't the fact they will know but that she told it. I mean if I ever tell her something more important than a silly crush and tell her it's a secret will she be able to keep her mouth shut?
2006-12-27 10:53:37 · 11 answers · asked by meluea 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If I am you,I don't think I will trust her.A best friend wouldn't do that to her best friends.If she had did this(I mean telling her b/f which is your circle of friend about your secret)she might do it again.
I once had a friend like her,and she do the same things to me.I am pretty nerd schoolgirl,where she is the most popular girl in school,but we are good friend before she tell the whole school about my crush(the worst is,my crushes is our teacher),so when I asked what really make her do that,its because she is jealous of me.I get high marks in every exam.She apologized me and beg me but I don't think she is can be trust again.
So maybe in your case,I think you should have a slow talk to her and asked her why she did this to her best friend.Tell her it hurts you.if she didn't think that's hurts.But after all,people like this cant be trusted..
2006-12-27 11:41:52 · answer #1 · answered by bluekie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, Small things are sometimes a sign of people not being able to keep big things a secret. i know how you feel, sometimes like all of us we have the urge to tell someone our secret (makes us feel better) be on the safe side and dont tell her another one is there a better friend you can do this with? Maybe she will keep the secret its best to use your own instict on the person. does she blab out other peoples secrets. Observe and then make a decsion.
2006-12-27 19:03:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't exactly let this put her on my list of enemies, but I totally wouldn't tell her anything I didn't want her boyfriend and whoever he tells to know the secret, too. Obviously, she doesn't consider your secrets as important as being totally open with her boyfriend. Maybe you could talk to her and tell her that this bothers you, give her a second chance to keep some secret and if she still ignores your request, then don't tell her anything again.
2006-12-27 19:13:26 · answer #3 · answered by faithloveseternally 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is difficult at best to find any one that can keep a secrete, You can pretty much bet that when you tell a secrete it is going to get around pretty fast! The best kept secrete concerning you, is the one YOU,
do not tell. Once you have told it, it is no longer a secrete!
2006-12-27 19:00:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I don't know because i don't know how she is but you should tell her something again and tell her it is a secret and see if she tells. dont tell her something juicy but don't tell her something boring either. Then if she tells then you know that she is not someone you can trust and let her know that you don't appreciate how she opened her mouth and told her boyfrind something that you told her was a secret! You should tell her that you and her were good friends but i don't know if I can trust you because i\something could be life threatening and you could have spoken up and got me hurtso just think about it! we can be friends but i don't think that my secrets would be safe with you!
2006-12-27 19:07:50 · answer #5 · answered by brownsugacookie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
address her with your problem with her. I had the same problem with my really good friend but I and some of my closest friends talked about her not being able to keep a secret issue and things have improved... give her a test of some sort and maybe don't run to her first to give you latest secret to.
2006-12-27 18:57:42 · answer #6 · answered by Meeeeeeee 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You really need to talk to her about it...say that it was about keeping the secret, rather then people knowing about a old crush... I really don't think that right now she can keep a secret....
2006-12-27 19:01:34 · answer #7 · answered by :) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope i wouldn't trust her.. i dont' care what you tell her, she should be keeping her mouth shut so she doesn't have this problem and lose a good friend.. i would so not want her in my life, it's those types of people that create problems that no one wants to deal with and then when they tell you something your a true friend, bullsnot.. okay sorry thats my opionion.. bye! good luck and best wishes! have a safe and very happy new year!
2006-12-27 18:58:57 · answer #8 · answered by ~broken~ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you can trust her. She will tell her boyfriend everything.
Since it is bothering you, let her know that she hurt you by betraying your confidence. It may make her think before she blabs in the future, but I still wouldn't tell her anything you don't want all of your friends to know.
Good luck to you. :)
2006-12-27 19:01:24 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no don't tell her sh|t. Or if you want to test her again, tell her a secret that isn't true and see if it gets around, then you will know for sure whether to tell her anything ever again
2006-12-27 18:58:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋