im 21, and in short, my life time ive been engaged twice. and it seems once we took the step toward marriage, they both fell off... well i kinda pushed them off.... i found out one cheated, and the other left me for some chick he met on myspace(aka the root of all evil)
2006-12-27 10:49:38 · 43 answers · asked by Ashley S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
the point of marriage is to create a legal partnership!
2006-12-27 11:25:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety, Im 18 and Im Engaged, my fiance is 21 also.Listen, not everyone is the same.You need to feel these guys out first.Stay with them a while before you make a HUGE decision like marrying them.You want to know what marriage is? MARRIAGE IS COMMITMENT.Commitment isnt what NEITHER of your boyfriends gave you. Its when you'll do anything in your possible will for that person.When you cant live without them, When you'd do something for them even if it would hurt you.Its when you're willing to spend the REST of your entire life with this person sharing a home! Making a family.Struggling TOGETHER and NEVER walking out on each other NO MATTER WHAT! You'd walk on hot coal for them just to help them through the pain.Its when you're ready to change your life completly and OPEN up a NEW CHAPTER in your life.Its no longer your life..its YOUR LIVES. Its when you find true meaning in your life.NO SEX WITH ANYBODY ELSE UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCES! If he cant handle that OUT HE GOES! Even though sometimes people do make mistakes, its on you to forgive.Dont look for love, Let love find you sweety. When the right guy comes, he'll come.Till then ENJOY YOUR SINGLE LIFE So you can be prepared to commit when he does come along. When he comes dont just jump into it with him...Be with him for the long run...see if he sticks around..see if he can HANDLE it.Good Luck to you, you'll be fine.Happy New Years! :)
2006-12-27 11:05:00 · answer #2 · answered by ♥ Loving My Babyboy ;) ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol myspace IS evil i agree.
There really is no point in marriage unless you KNOW that the person you are about to marry is totally in love with you. I'm 21 and I have been engaged twice as well. Both ended badly the same as yours did. I think what we should do is be single for a long time, have fun, use men as much as we can (because that is what they do to us) and just have a really good time with friends and family. You don't need a man especially at 21 =) good luck girlie
2006-12-27 11:37:38 · answer #3 · answered by play hard 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe the point is to have a life partner, someone you can trust and live happily with on a 50/50 basis. The idea of marriage isn't so much a 'romantic' notion or even a binding legal agreement as it is a basis or foundation for sharing life with your best friend and lover. If marriage is as it's intended to be, I believe it is meant to provide both partners with a space where they are totally loved, accepted, respected and cared for on a deeper level. Also, marriage, so long as it's a good one, is the best of places to bring children into the world.
2006-12-27 11:20:16 · answer #4 · answered by faithloveseternally 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ashley,
There's no real point to marriage
unless you want the benefits that
your spouse's work offers or if you
believe you have to because of your
faith.
Otherwise, if two people are truly in
love and committed to each other no
piece of paper can cement the bond
any stronger. Nor can that piece of
paper stop someone from straying
elsewhere.
If you're happy with your life and the
person you end up with and you both
don't want to get married, don't. It's
just a tradition that means nothing,
with or without that piece of paper,
unless you put your heart and soul
into it 100%.
Peace.
2006-12-27 10:59:08 · answer #5 · answered by Semaj S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those were not the right ones. Don't be in such a rush. The point of marriage would be the ultimate commitment to someone. Enjoy being 21.
2006-12-27 10:59:19 · answer #6 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 21 you aren't ready for marriage. If you were you would be married. The right guy will turn up eventually. Why worry and stress over something that isn't for you at this moment in your life. Why dont you focus on having some fun before marriage and babies. You definitely know when your ready. You will not question yourself.
2006-12-27 10:53:55 · answer #7 · answered by karena k 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The point of marriage is to create roots and stability for your children and to celebrate a union of soulmates. Don't give up hope. Honestly, 21 is WAY too young, guys don't start really settling down very well until their 30's. Spend your 20's dating casually and hanging out with your friends, travel, spoil yourself rotten!!! When you are 30, then start thinking of marriage and all the trimmings.
2006-12-27 10:53:00 · answer #8 · answered by wellbeing 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I was thinking the same thing.. What is the point.. Pretty much all of my friends are married.. I've been with my girlfriend for about 4 yrs now and she was throwing the hint about getting married.. I thought about it before and really didn't see the point.. only that if we split, half of my stuff would be gone.. I don't think that I can go threw with it, but it would be the right thing to do if we have a kid.. but hey don't worry, there is other bachelors out there that you would want to spend your life with.. just stay away from them myspace junkies...
2006-12-27 10:56:40 · answer #9 · answered by crazgrss 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you find the right person and you are the right person, marriage is a good thing. You need to have some life experience though to become a good wife. 21 is too young to have been engaged twice--but good for you for breaking it off. If you let them get away with it before you marry them, they won't stop just because they get married.
2006-12-27 10:52:05 · answer #10 · answered by ssc 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a legal security net. It entitles you to rights concerning your spouse.
If you put the moral ramifications aside, psychologically it can help a little with the monogamy since it makes your pairing "official".
It seems the commitment of marriage was enough to induce the true nature of those you wanted to be with.
Keep at it. Who ever makes it to the finish line wins.
2006-12-27 10:55:18 · answer #11 · answered by There you are∫ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋