I have been married for 5 months. My husband and I have sex 4 to 5 times a week. I also watch porn with my husband. I told him that it hurts my feelings when he watches porn by himself and so I made him sexy pictures of me doing certain things with my toys if he ever felt the need to jack off. (since we have sex so often, I didn't figure that he would need to) I came home early from work today and he's been home sick and I started to go down on hima nd he said that he jacked off earlier. I was fine with that, but I later learned that he downloaded porn and jacked off to that. (I found it on the computer, he didn't tell me) Do I not sastify him and should I be worried?
2006-12-27 10:43:24 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
I'm sure that you satisfy him and have no reason to worry. My husband and I have been through this before. We watch porn together also and I'm fine with it. But I was a bit upset when I found out he'd been downloading porn and jacking off by himself. After many discussions I'm okay with it now. He explained that sometimes he just feels like getting off quickly and sex takes more effort. I was hurt and felt like I wasn't good enough for him. But after I thought about it, it does make sense. So if your husband has been home sick he's not feeling well and probably wanted to get off to feel better for a moment but didn't have the energy for sex. And if he's sick maybe he didn't want to get you sick too. Try not to worry about it - it's a normal guy thing.
2006-12-27 12:22:12 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs_M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are worried sweety go seek a marriage counselor of your husband is willing fo go.
Lay off the porn. He should not be watching that much porn. Porn corrupts people and is doing it to your husband.
If you are not happy with a man like that, you divorce him.
He should be glad to have you. He sounds sick to me.
I have been married for a little over a year, and my husband does not watch porn not even once. I even have tried to push him. My husband is Muslim. and yes I am his only wife and only one.
The answer is yes you are satisfying him. He is just a loser. Marry a religious man.
Yes men are horny, but that does not mean they have to watch porn all of the time. That is just an excuse. Honestly, it is American men that are this way mostly. I am an American woman, and my husband is from Jordan.
2006-12-28 03:04:14 · answer #2 · answered by Michelle R 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, it depends on a lot of things. Chances are it is not you given the frequency of your lovemaking. When I was 18-25, j/o 4-6 times a day was not unusual, but not always the norm. It sounds like your husband may be addicted to sex/porn. The fact he wants to watch porn and j/o has literally nothing to do with how he views you, but instead of his view towards women and his sexual issues. I would suggest couples counseling.
2006-12-27 15:32:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
im sorry to hear that but i dont think that its you not satisfying him..i believe he jacked off to that porn because if you give him pictures to jerk off too its not as fun...this is because say you were in school and the teacher said no gum so as soon as she turns her back you stick a piece in your mouth...many men are adventurous therefore they think that by doing something that they think their partener wont find out about they are being adventurous when really all they are doing is hurting their partener..its not you is what i am saying in case i lost you...but here is a suggestion...instead of just having sex with him tease him and dont always have sex it will leave him wanting more. resulting in him being happy
2006-12-27 10:55:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your getting worked up for nothing. We are guys we Jerk off ,we watch porn,. That's what we do. Why you woman have to over analyse every little thing we do, I'll never know.
He watches Porn and Jerks off OH MY GOD HE HAS AN ADDICTION!!
NO ,HE IS A HORNY MAN!!!
2006-12-28 01:34:19 · answer #5 · answered by Ironman396 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be worried about being so controlling! thats a hoot, you making pictures of yourself with toys, dont you think that you are being a little bit too much? It sounds like you have a good enough relationship and you should stop worrying so much about not satisfying him, after all you are providing him with lots of sex and even the pictures for when your not there!
2006-12-27 10:52:19 · answer #6 · answered by Mr. CoCo 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You lost it as a spouse, Because of him
Time to dump him and move on, porn is more important to him than you, You will not convince him of it it either
Let some one that can enjoy your body have you
2006-12-27 11:44:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
with that much sex, he is prolly primed most of the time. jacking is NOT a reflection on you. Don't take it personally. Also don't take the porn personally. It is just something that guys do.
2006-12-27 10:52:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he might be addicted to porn. me and my fiancee had the same problem and we talked about it. Try to talk to him let him know how you feel and maybe there is a fantasy that he has that he wants to do and that is the reason why he might be doing that. My man was so we talked and now incorporate into our life and we have a great time.
2006-12-27 11:12:46 · answer #9 · answered by Kiara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u care this much about him being happy in bed then alk to him and find out b/c it sound like he just enjoys porn
is he better in bed while u watch porn or when u r alone ?
2006-12-27 12:07:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋