Is it fair for my sister to give me compensation for me driving her around all the time?

Question

My sister is 30 this year and doesn't have her drivers license or any wish to get it.
She lives with me... which is OK ... but she expects me to do the shopping and run errands and pick her up from the bus stop when it's raining.
She never compensates me for these trips, in fact she says "It's your fault for having a car. It's much cheaper to take a bus."
Is it not fair that since I am struggling financially and she is doing well for herself, that she help out by paying a bus fare per trip at the very least, to help me out?
Yes we're sisters and I do a lot for her, but having a car is hugely expensive these days and I am at wit's end trying to make ends meet!!!

Answer 1

Your sister is taking advantage of you and you need to put a stop to it immediately. Tell her "no" when she demands you run the errands. She's a big girl and needs to fend for herself! If she still wants you to do things for her that involve your car, tell her you will charge her $2.00 per mile IN ADVANCE and mapquest your route for the exact milage! The $2 will cover gas, wear & tear on the vehicle, use of oil and also the cost of car insurance. If she refuses to pay, refuse to take her anywhere and tell her to call a cab. If you were to get into an accident who does she think would buy you a new car and pay the increase in the new auto insurance (which would surely go up because of the accident!). Take a firm stand and do NOT let her give you a "but I'm your sister" guilt trip because your sister should NOT be putting you in a position that is detremental to your finances! Good luck!

Answer 2

Yes she does need to do a little. What would she have to do if you were not there? You should do some without compensation. But at the very least she should make an effort to give you gas money for your trips that you do for her. Gas is not as cheap as it once was. If she does not see this then ask what a walk home from the bus stop in the rain not happening is worth. It should be worth something for you having to leave the warm house to go get her.

Answer 3

If she feels have a car is your fault, don't let her ride in it. Let her know that you have to share everything equally or it's not going to work. Next time she has to walk home in the rain, she'll wise up.

As long as all the other expenses are shared 50/50, she should pay for have of any rides you give her and trips to the store. You could work out how often she rides or you run errands for her and then determine how much that is in gas costs and wear on the car.

Answer 4

She could be a little less selfish and give you some gas money. Gas is expensive and also there is the point of the wear and tear on your car. If she does not agree, let her walk from the bus stop in the rain. And allow her to pay bills by catching the bus. God bless****

Answer 5

♥ & u should tell her exactly what u just told us. she's not doing her part & she's taking advantage of the fact that ur a good sister. my sister used 2 be the same way. she would never carry money on her & when she wanted something & i was out shopping with her, she'd want me 2 pay 4 it. i did this 4 a really long time, allowing her 2 meet her needs thru me. i finally told her i couldn't do it n/e more. u should still help ur sister out, but ask her 2 help pay. if she refuses, tell her that u've hauled her around n/e where that she's wanted 2 go & the least she can do is help pay. ♥

Answer 6

Yes, she SHOULD help you, but sometimes family - even though they're supposed to be the ones who are willing to help you the most - can be the very ones who seem to take advantage of you when you're in the most need. And, it's truly hard to force someone like a sister to listen when you say that you need compensation for your car. Maybe you should tell her you're going to get rid of the car because you can't afford it and see if that might wake her up and encourage her to help you financially. Hope that things work out for you.

Answer 7

Of course she should help. It's costing you gas and maintenance everytime you do errands/ pick her up. It's not your fault for having a car, it's her fault for taking advantage of your kindness.
Here's a thought, sell your car, start taking the bus and tell her to buy an umbrella!

Answer 8

sound to me like your sister is cheap, greedy and selfish... no consideration in fact she is rude!!!

Next time she is at the bus stop when it's raining and she says come pick me up. Tell her it's her fault she dont have a car.

of course you should ask her for gas money, not only is she using your car she is taking up your time.

Answer 9

Start telling her you need gas money. You could also try telling her you're going to start taking the bus because you can't afford to keep the car.

Answer 10

your sister is doing well? i guess so girlfriend, wake up. she sould #1 pay you by the trip (going bus fare rate) or #2 or pay you an average flat fee per wk or month or# let her find another way to do her arrands ,without your help!she is taking advantage of your kind heartedness. this istotally wrong!!!!