I am living with a legally separated (for 6 years) man who has half custody of his ten year old daughter who stays on the weekends. Luckily, the three of us get along well and have a great time together. However, as he comes from a Catholic family, although they are happy with our relationship, they are still not comfortable with us sleeping in the same room.
We are all going on a cruise shortly and I'll be sharing a room with my boyfriend's 15 year old neice instead of my boyfriend. Does this seem right? Please keep in mind that my boyfriend is 40 years old. Should I just respect old values and not push, or is this insane?
2006-12-27 09:55:22 · 18 answers · asked by terribleatgames 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Doesn't sound like a lot of fun! How long have the two of you been together? Why isn't he divorced? There are a lot of unanswered questions here...personally I would not settle for sleeping with his niece...but that is me, you have to decide what you are willing to do in this relationship. or willing to give up for the sake of his family....how does he feel about the arrangements?
2006-12-27 10:00:43 · answer #1 · answered by Becky 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think this is a very touchy subject. You obviously don't want to ruin your reputation with your man's family.....but this is bordering on ridiculous. If I were you, I would try it out.....I mean what is the big deal if you don't sleep together for a few days? After all, it's only sleep. On a cruise ship, there is all kinds of fun you could get into. Not to mention all the sneaking around to be done! Be creative and control your circumstances, not the other way around!
2006-12-27 10:02:23 · answer #2 · answered by lucitienne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! No way I'd agree to it. I mean, you guys are living together, so it's obvious what is going on. It would be different if you were staying in his family's house, but this is a cruise and they are not your hosts.
But, I am wondering why in the world you are living with a man who won't get divorced? He needs to move on and marry you or you need to move on.
Your boyfriend's values are apparently not that old, judged by the fact that he is still married, but living with you.
2006-12-27 10:01:41 · answer #3 · answered by schweetums 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he can live with you why in the world can't he stay in the same room on a cruise? That sounds like a total BS excuse in the name of God.
I come from a totally Catholic family and I think your guy and/or his family is full of it.
Don't let him take advantage of you!
2006-12-27 10:02:37 · answer #4 · answered by The It Girl ∆☻乐 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try to keep the peace. It does not seem right, but if the family has set this up try to see it their way. Maybe they are hoping you will keep an eye on this 15 year old girl? Perhaps they trust you to keep this girl out of trouble?
Enjoy the cruise.
2006-12-27 09:59:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's 40 years old and does not need to be telling anyone personal things such as where he sleeps or who he sleeps with. And if his family had any more sense than him, they would tell him they don't need to know this. Those people are nuts!
2006-12-27 10:06:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't push. When I was dating my husband, we went on holiday together, but had to make a point of telling his parents that we had seperate rooms! I know it isn't ideal, but sometimes you've got to do things like this for the greater good.
2006-12-27 09:57:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you dating the man or his family. If the man wants to sleep with you go for it. Don't tell the family nothin. Have a good time.
2006-12-27 09:58:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to drop this loser. His priorities will always be, kids first, and you second. Is that the kind of relationship you want? Be my guest, but you're never going to be number 1.
2006-12-27 10:00:01 · answer #9 · answered by Sax M 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey people will still think and know that you guys sleep together anyway so why try to please people if they are never going to be satisfied? You guys need to have your own room. You two need to make your own decisions and not leave it to other people.
2006-12-27 10:05:19 · answer #10 · answered by RoseFairy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋