well I been with my boyfrined 3 years and ive been faithful the whole time. Well yesterday me and my bestfriend(a male) went 2 a bar. As we was at the bar we were really drunk, then all of a sudden he kiss me and we was kissing when we left and went 2 his house, at his house we had sex and I dont what to do. advice???????
and now im really starting 2 fell him, now when we on the phone we talk about us 2gether. plz help
2006-12-27 09:51:19 · 31 answers · asked by Juanita M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i am black thank u very much
2006-12-27 10:09:03 · update #1
for everyone who is talking about my english, its my 2nd language spanish is my first. I'm mexican and black, i grew up in mexico no english was hardly there.
2006-12-27 10:34:27 · update #2
You probably need to be by yourself for a while. Give yourself time to think of who you really want to be with and your options. Sometimes, being with a person(that you are not with) is not as easy as it sounds. 3 years is a nice time-do you really want to give that up? But at the same time, you did just cheat on your boyfriend for this other guy which means at that instant you were willing to give your boyfriend up or wasn't thinking about him at all. You don't want to keep cheating but what if you give your boyfriend up and it doesn't work with your best friend. Which are you willing to risk? I think you should give your boyfriend the chance because you have been with him for a while and because if you don't you will always wonder about if the two of you could have been. 3 years wasn't because of a drink, a kiss, and sex.
2006-12-27 09:57:00 · answer #1 · answered by RoxieC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you need lessons in English. Second of all, were you drunk when you typed this question? Being drunk isn't an excuse for bad behavior. If you are getting drunk you might be avoiding the real issue here. I think you have issues deep inside your heart and you don't know what you want. Being faithful doesn't mean you love someone. AND you shouldn't be having sex before marriage. Good Luck to you.
2006-12-27 17:58:58 · answer #2 · answered by GreenIce10 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow thiz iz a hard one well first of all lets start with who you like more your current boyfriend or your guy friend who do you think you'll be happier with ok well guy friends can sometimes make good boyfriends or somtimes they can't if you have a bad break up then you probablly won't hvae that friendship that u had ok another thing is that you said you were really drunk so it maybe wasn't real love i think you should tell your current boyfriend about what happened and i think you should also talk with your guy friend and ask him if he feels the same way that your startin to feel for him then if he does maybe it all could work out and you might have a good realationship with him basically just follow your heart
i hope that everything works out between you and the 2 guys
2006-12-27 19:10:55 · answer #3 · answered by lillllly :) 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys were drunk and now that you two have had sex, yall think yall need to pursue this right now because its new, but remember that you have a boyfriend and that if you are an honest person, you will let your boyfriend know that this happened and that you want to break off the relationship.
The big mistake alot of people do is set them selves up for karma kicking them in the rear end. You need to let go of your current and get with the future, only if you are for certain this is something you want to pursue. If not, then you will know what to do, it will come to you
2006-12-27 17:54:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's why it's difficult for a man and a woman to be friends. Break up with your boyfriend, he deserves better. Your relationship with your friend will never be the same. Try and see if you can develop it further. If not, you may have lost them both. Because, if your best friend and you don't work as a couple, do you really think you or he are going to be able to deal well with watching the other in a relationship with another person.
Good luck
2006-12-27 18:03:14 · answer #5 · answered by david419_2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is complicated. I think you've probably had feelings for this best friend for a long time. You should end things with your current boyfriend and start a relationship with the best friend. From the sounds of it, you are not only good friends, but you can be in a physical relationship.
Its not going to be easy or pretty to break up with your current boy friend. Be prepared for him to freak out...and don't stick around to argue about things if you made up your mind about no longer wanting to be with him.
2006-12-27 17:55:30 · answer #6 · answered by Destiny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you're drunk the truth comes out. if that happened while both of you were drunk that shows that you both have feelings for each other. If you feel that you want to try something new with your friend then go for it. Take a break with your boyfriend and date you Best Friend for a while. Who knows? Maybe it could work out!!
2006-12-27 17:59:44 · answer #7 · answered by ~Stephie~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You made a big boo boo. You should never sleep with your best friend. Now you you have to decide who u want to be with more. It's a tough decision but at the end of the day you know what will make you happy. Hope things go good for you.
2006-12-27 17:56:02 · answer #8 · answered by LadyofLuxury 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no such thing " best friends" between one guy and a girl ! Everyone knows that to one point .
Take a break from both of them and then think witch one u want and quit to the other.
2006-12-27 18:03:34 · answer #9 · answered by AlinaU 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first off you should ends things with your bf. Cheating on anyone is never cool. If you had sex with your bestfriend, I suggest you first break off things with your bf and then talk to your best friend about what happened and your feelings.
2006-12-27 18:17:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋