where do i go from here? can anyone relate?

Question

i went to college 500 miles away from home and spent most of my college life focused on my relationship. i was depressed a lot, and kinda let most of my friendships slip away. now i am home, having just graduated college. it seems all my friends from this city are at different stages of their lives and it is hard for me to reconnect to them. my gf (i'm a bi fem) wants me to move to live with her and her family but i feel i'd be too codependent. but up here, i am kind of lonely and live only with my mom. i still have some friends who want to hang out sometime but never on a regular basis, and i'm not sure if my relationshiip will work out long distance. i also find that i kind of like this other girl who i went to school with and e-mail. where do i go with my life? how do i make new friendships?

Answer 1

Join a club

Go to a church

Volunteer at the Y

Volunteer at the local Hospice center

Join a gym and make friends with other work out folk

Go to the movies with people

Go to the library and ask for help at the desk

Be a volunteer at the VA hospital nearby.

Gosh, that should be a start. . .You can do this. I know you can

Answer 2

I can definitely relate. Near the end of my senior year in high school, I got a boyfriend, and I started spending most of my time with him, letting my friendships slip, which I didn't really mind because I never really liked my high school friends that much, anyway (we spent most of our time trash talking each other). Then I went to college far away from home, and my boyfriend broke up with me. I am now in my first year of college, and I'm home for break. I saw my old friends, but we really have nothing in common anymore. So I don't really have anyone to spend time with except my little brother. I'm trying to adjust to not having much of a social life. I hope that during the summer I cane make new friends around here.

My only advice, I guess, is to not do anything just because you feel lonely at home. If you don't truly want to move in with your girlfriend, don't. It might make you happier in the short run, but you should remember that in the long run, you'll make new friends and your life situation will change, and you'll be happiest knowing you can stand on your own for awhile.

As for your life right now, you have a degree, so you can meet new people at a new job. And in the meantime, just spend your time doing things you enjoy, and it's ok if you have to do them by yourself.

Answer 3

if it makes you feel better your not alone...

that link is to a similar question i just asked last night, hope this helps..

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AozK_VjSmcz2HfH_2TF2fKPsy6IX?qid=20061226185006AALwH6P