I've been with my partner for 3 years and have been friends for 6 yrs. We both don't want children so we find other ways of expressing our love physically. My mom thinks that it's not real and it won't last and we don't really love each other because we don't have intercourse. What do you think?
2006-12-27 09:43:31 · 12 answers · asked by Q&A 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My mom and I are very open in that we can talk about things. She asked me point blank if we were having sex. I too found it a little disturbing that she seemed to be encouraging premarital sex.
2006-12-27 12:28:40 · update #1
I think you're mom's statement is absolutely false. Different people will have different opinions on this but I think the only thing that should matter is what you and your partner think. I personally could love someone the same amount whether sex is involved or not.
2006-12-27 09:53:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hummmm... If your mom is an older person... shouldn't her thinking be that her daughter should not have sex prior to marriage and that a committed relationship involves marriage... sex is the by product of loving and sharing happiness in a marriage.
Her thought process is amazing and interesting (not in a good way..no disrespect intended) She is stating that based on the fact that you're not having premarital sex with a this man she thinks you should in order to have the relationship last.... Wow! ok then.
Regarding your thinking....
If both of you decide not to have children... ok fine.. get married and use an IUD, or let him get a vasectomy. The sexual relationship between a husband and wife is AWESOME!!!
2006-12-27 10:07:25 · answer #2 · answered by 247 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't help but wonder: how does your mother KNOW that you and your partner aren't having sexual intercourse!?!
That said, I also think that anything you and your partner choose to do that is mutually acceptable and satisfying is 100 percent your business and absolutely nobody else's.
There are many ways to express love. And children aren't necessarily "proof" of a loving and/or committed relationship.
Tell your mother that what the two of you do in the privacy of your bedroom is your business and then refrain from letting her know anything about what goes on there!
2006-12-27 10:21:05 · answer #3 · answered by pat z 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if your both not interested in having sex at least you found someone that has the same interests. And do what you think is right. What your Mom says don't matter, live your life to the fullest it can be, the way you want it!
Have a Good One!
2006-12-27 09:48:59 · answer #4 · answered by Georgie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sad that your mom would encourage premarital sex. As your mom, she should certainly want what is the best for you. Sex before marriage is never the best under any circumstances.
I greatly admire you for your abstinence. Please continue to be the wonderful young lady you are and ignore your mother's unwise advice. You are much wiser that she is.
2006-12-27 14:08:58 · answer #5 · answered by delmaanna67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
relationships are not all about sex. i disagree with your mom. if you guys feel satisfied with what you have, there is no need to rush into anything.
look at the good thing about it. you both abstain so low risk of std and you both have found ways of satisfying each other without sex. keep on doing what you are doing.
2006-12-27 10:15:49 · answer #6 · answered by mysticshabs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships last because the people in them work very hard to make them last...obviously your mother has another agenda.
2006-12-27 12:29:01 · answer #7 · answered by Therapist King 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, would she be happier if there was an baby that you would have to raise? Unless you are living under her roof, no reason she should be so nosy in your life in that way.
2006-12-27 12:12:16 · answer #8 · answered by werlecar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At your age your sex life is none of your mom's business. Keep it to yourself.
2006-12-27 10:02:46 · answer #9 · answered by Jon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you find it satisfying then don't pay any attention to what your mom says
2006-12-27 09:47:00 · answer #10 · answered by ☆Soon 2 be Mom of 2☆ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋