my dads been an acoholic for as far as i can remember..i blame him for all the horrible things in my life an the way i turnd out and the main one being i cant seem to stop lieing and i now it hurts the people i most love..he also cheated on my mum an now that she wants to devorce him his fightin to keep more then 1/2 the things she earnd with her hard work and no fanx to him..its been almost a yr i talk to him but i do admit i feel so much happier but deep inside id like to make him suffer aswel but dnt no if that right
im affraid if i give him another chance he'll keep on hurtin me
what do i do
2006-12-27 09:29:46 · 7 answers · asked by pink an black 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Look I might not be the perfect one to give you an advice but i'll tell you a little about me. Ever since i can remember my dad has always drink and the funny thing is that he says he's not an alcoholic. Drinking + other issues was the cause for my parents divorce and of course he says that it's her fault, my mom made some mistakes but going by what i saw, lived, and heard he pushed her to it. we lived in another country and when ever he went to supposably see us, he would spend the first and last day at the house and the rest on the street, women, and alcohol. Today i'm 23, sometimes I cry and even though I have a lot of things to be grateful for I still can't figure out why I feel so empty inside. I'm a stonger believer when it comes to making decisions and I think that everyone of us have a choice and ours will be making a difference when it comes to been happy or miserable. You want to know why? well because it's not our fault and we don't have to follow our parents pattern when it's negative, so that's why he lives by himself now and everytimes he needs me I try to be there because that's what us as their children suppose to do, but at least when i feel sad after i cry i feel relieve instead of been how he is "alone", which is something that he can't really fix even if he gets a million bottles of alcohol and women. I know he's not happy and i might not be the greatest daughter on earth but at least i don't hate him or disrespect him, it's just not my style. So don't waist your precious time and life in hating your dad, it's only going to make you more miserable, go on show him that you don't have to be like him, and that you can be or do what ever you want. don't seek revenge and remember what comes around goes around and i bet that after a few years you wouldn't want a son or daughter of yours to be on your feet.
2006-12-27 10:32:10 · answer #1 · answered by D1NONLY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to a councilor or go to al-a-ateen. They helped a lot of people. What your feeling isn't unique or unusual for someone who has to deal with an alcholic. Remember that alcholism is a illness. But you can get even more sick if you don't get help yourself. So consider getting someone to help you so that you don't go down the same path etc.
2006-12-27 09:37:34 · answer #2 · answered by AnnG 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you feel is natural but stop the lying. That is an alcoholic trait. Go to Al-non meetings. You will meet people who felt the way you do and can help you work it out.
2006-12-27 09:44:13 · answer #3 · answered by penny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you, really I do. But you have the responsibility to yourself to take control of your own life. You are not responsible to or for your dad and his actions. However, you are completely responsible for yourself and everything that you do, and everything that happens to you. You confess that you lie a lot. You are doing this to protect yourself. However, it is time for you to stop doing that. If you make a mistake, accept that fact that you made a mistook. Then get on with your life. Your mum is not responsible for you anymore. You are old enough to be responsible for yourself. Your dad is not responsible for your actions. You and only you have that responsibility. Take charge of your life and yourself. And move on.
2006-12-27 09:38:15 · answer #4 · answered by rb_cubed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are help communities for family participants of alcoholics. examine your interior of sight telephone e book. He yells and gets right into a combat with you because of the fact he's shielding approximately his alcoholism. He would not desire to hearken to what you're able to say because of the fact it makes him sense accountable. sturdy success.
2016-10-28 12:09:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay as far away from him as possible.
If he decides he wants to change, be supportive, but I doubt that will be soon with a divorce looming. He's the only one that can make that decision.
You and your mom need to be each other's support system right now.
2006-12-27 09:45:21 · answer #6 · answered by sorcergeek 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry. my life is kinda like yours im only 14 and my dads been an alcoholic for the last like 7 years. and my mom tries soo hard to keep our family together.(me my mom and dad) but tonight my mom is drunk tonight. and im alone i found your yahoo thing on the internet i was trying to find help because im considering suicide. to me theres nothing left to live for .i just wanna be older and get passed all that but i cant wait that long. please if you can reply back. i really need someone to talk to.=[
2006-12-29 11:27:20 · answer #7 · answered by yourhawtt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋