I'm a male in my mid-twenties. I've been a loner pretty much all my life...not so much out of choice but because I'm very self-conscious. I think I've have avoidant personality. I want to make friends with people my age, but I feel weird doing so. Pretty much everyone already has their own set of friends, so they will think I'm a weirdo when all I have is them to hang out with and no other friends of my own. Everyone says find clubs to join, but its not that easy with my schedule and location. I need some help. Thanks.
2006-12-27 09:23:43 · 7 answers · asked by . 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I guess I should add that I look much younger than my age. So that's partly why I feel self-conscious about hanging with people my age. I just don't feel like I'm equal to them.
2006-12-27 09:26:21 · update #1
awwwww sweetie, the main thing is to talk. start up conversations with people. you have to learn to love the skin you're in. don't be afrais to be spontaneous and daring. you could always start by asking one person straight up ,"what do you think of me?" People love people who will go up like that. you are not alone. you could make someones day by just smiling! the word will spread fast that you are the man to talk to.
2006-12-27 09:29:42 · answer #1 · answered by can'ywait2getoutofhere 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say Hi to some people and start up a conversation ( best thing to do is start with small stuff like say hi to random people and then try saying hi to some people and ask them questions like how are you and talk about random small talk pretty much) Eventually you'll find a friend or at least make a friend. but starting out small give you the confidence which helps in making friends
2006-12-27 09:28:43 · answer #2 · answered by crazy_elf_220 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
MY answer is just be your self. I know you probably heard that alot but its SOOO true. When you talk to people do the following
1.Make eye contact -when you talk to people and look them straight in the eye they tend to listen more plus they wouldn't pay attention to how you look like or what your wearing.
2.Keep the conversation going-talk about event like how JAmes Brown died or talk about funny or scary movies songs etc.
3.Smile when you meet them-When you introduce yourself or they introduce themselves just do a friendly smile with no teeth or with teeth.
4.Ask questions listen more-People LOVE talking about themselves so ask about there lives get to know them more and than relate yourself to them (thats how you find the things you have in commom with them)
5. Be outgoing - don't stay in your shell try new things go moutain climbing go bowling and then invite the new people that you met to go along with you.You don't really have to hit the parties just go out (go out - out GOing)
Hope this really helped !
2006-12-27 09:35:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
believe me.. you're not the only one. i feel like a loser, i have no friends!! it's not that i can't, i just don't keep in touch and most of the time, don't feel like going out. but believe me, everyone has the power to make friends, including you! you just have to get out there and soon enough, you'll be noticed by someone. having a lot of friends is not necessarily better than having only one or a couple of good friends. just be yourself because don't you want someone to act like themselves when you meet them? feel comfortable with yourself.
2006-12-28 10:09:51 · answer #4 · answered by cc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am a loner myself and have never made friends easily. i honestly prefer to be alone. if you honestly want to make friends, you have to get out in the world. strike up conversations with someone you would ordinarily ignore. smile more and try to be more approachable. have you tried my space?
2006-12-27 09:30:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you try myspace? is a good way to meet a network of people. Good Luck!
2006-12-27 09:28:21 · answer #6 · answered by Amanda L 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Join a club and get a hobby.
2006-12-27 09:27:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋