justice of peace not an option, groom wants church weddding?

Answer 1

marriage is all about compromise

Answer 2

Here's my thought. Most churches allow for their members to use the church for weddings with no cost. Some will do so for members provided they pay for incidentals such as clean up, utilities, deposit, etc. Therefore;

IF you are currently members of a church then you should be able to use that church at little or no cost.

IF you are NOT currently members of a church, then I would suggest to your husband to be that he re-evaluate the reason behind the 'church wedding'. If he is wanting a church wedding just to make the family happy and not because he sees the sanctity of a 'holy matrimony' then his desire for a 'church wedding' is belittleing to the church and those who participate in it.

I'm on my second marriage. Both done by Methodist preachers (2nd minister was my Aunt) with the 1st being in a church and 2nd being in a rented KC hall. The 2nd was much better as we had room for the reception and such and there was no 'traveling' between places. There was not loss of sanctity in the KC hall wedding as it's not the building that sactifies the ceremony rather the minister and couple being married.

It seems you two have some religious issues to work out. I would suggest you do this prior to the wedding!

Good luck and I hope this helps!

Answer 3

Hello =)

You would need to examine your motivation for not wanting a church wedding...

Contrary to popular belief, it is ok to be an agnostic or an atheist, or whatever, and still get married in many churches, by simply lying. Good people don't get struck by lightning when they enter a church, regardless of their beliefs. A lie to benefit others, that harms no one is not a bad thing, dear.....

If you feel hypocritical, just consider the fact that you're doing this for him.

Namaste, and Happy Holidays,

--Tom

Answer 4

what is the problem with a church wedding?

what is his reason for refusing a JP?

would a religious minister officiating at an alternative venue be an option?

Answer 5

Again...New Orleans. You can get married at a church there in a small ceremony. Do some research and I think you will be pleased.

Answer 6

Skip the big wedding, go see a Judge. (you'll eventually end up back in a courtroom anyway someday).....keep it short/sweet. Who needs all the bells/whistles if you really LOVE one another....it's all for SHOW...it's WASTED $$$$.

Take care of each other....BE REAL.....and forget all that crap that's just to impress people who won't be there when your marriage begins to crumble.

I hope you guys make it work!

Go for it !

Answer 7

So go to a church and get married.

Answer 8

I'd tell the jerk to pay for the damned wedding then, and all of it.

If he and his mommy want the church wedding let that old bag pay for it.

Answer 9

go to the unitarian universalist church.
they are very flexible and don't require that you believe in god or jesus. you will have to pay a minister and probably rent the church if you are not members.
there are "chapels" that are not real churches you can rent to get married.

Answer 10

whats the question? sounds like you and your fiance disagree on some very important fundamental issues--get them ironed out before you wed, or they'll come back to haunt you.

Answer 11

then let him spend the money on it. Why are you opposed to it?? I think it's a fantastic idea. Look at it this way- you only get married once! (hopefully!!!)