How can you draw the line? I mean, we have been married close to 2 years now, and we had an very long engagemnt before that; and I understand that passion decreases after some point; and I am okey with it. But I dont know if he is just comfortable; or if he stopped loving me. He didnt recognize my hairs, I know this sound very stupid; but I turned a redhead from a blonde; so you just have to not look at me to not to see. Another incident:I did not saw him for 2 days, and his first reaction was talking about the cold when he first saw me. He is still tender kind and thoughtfull; but that is his personality. Is there a way to tell the difference? And what should I do? I dont want this.
2006-12-27 09:03:03 · 8 answers · asked by D_M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thanks for all the answers, you all are great!! It feels so good.
Little edit: We did not see ach other for 2 days, beacuse I was on vacation. The incident was about he not showing any passion after 2 days.
2006-12-27 09:48:35 · update #1
Why don't you talk to him about it? Tell him how you feel. He might not realize he's doing anything wrong.
Or he could be having an affair...ugh...
Sorry.
2006-12-27 09:07:51 · answer #1 · answered by Chica Creole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that he feels very comfortable with you and like most men you have to drag their thoughts out of them. I don't feel that too many men are great communicators like women are. Yes it's true what someone else said perhaps he did prefer your hair blonde and didn't want to hurt your feelings by saying so.Why was he away for 2 days without you ?? Nothing personal l hope ?? If he is still tender, kind and thoughtful as you said l honestly don't think you have anything to worry about. I'm sure he still loves you and is in his own comfort zone. Speak to him if you are at all concerned and hopefully you will get the answers you need. Good luck
2006-12-27 17:41:40 · answer #2 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you know how he was when you both met so either this is just the way he is or he is losing interest in you. My husband is the same way if I make a change whether I buy a new outfit or get my hair done etc. he doesnt act like it makes a bit of a difference. You two havent been married that long it sounds to me that this is part of who he is. As long as he lets you know he loves you and you both have each others hearts try not to worry so much about this.The only thing I can tell you is you know him we dont and if this is a problem for you that he doesnt notice things like this then you need to talk with him. The one thing you dont want to do is have a marriage where you are trying your hardest to get his attention to where you lose apart yourself into trying to make him notice the simple things he is your husband and should make you feel like you are his world not making you feel like you dont exist.I hope you get him figured out good luck! I dont know if this makes any sense just make what you can of it.
2006-12-27 17:33:08 · answer #3 · answered by 2wild4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO marriage can survive without communication. You can't walk around guessing what your hubby might be thinking! Your gonna have to take a deep breathe and just start talking about whats on your mind, and what you feel in your heart. Sounds like you feel you have nothing to loose. If you permit your mind to wander, and guess what he might be thinking, your causing yourself a whole lot of extra stress. No-one needs that. When a couple gets married, they have a clean "slate". If a couple does not communicate, the slate starts to build up with garbage. Pretty soon, the slate becomes so full of garbage, a couple can't find their way back to each other. So, the moral of this story is to try and keep the slate as clean as possible- so you never have to work too hard to find each other! You'll never lose contact, and as the years go by, you'll find yourselves thinking like each other!!
2006-12-27 17:23:00 · answer #4 · answered by sue d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't seem like anything is wrong with me. If he DID notice the hair change, maybe he just didnt really like the new look and thought better not to say anything at all rather than saying he dislikes it. And the other just sounds like a conversation starter, I'm a very temperature sensitive person and if I'm cold EEEEVERYone has to hear about it lol. TO ME, seems as though he still loves you and is quite comfortable.
2006-12-27 17:09:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He disappeared for 2 days with no explaination? Sounds like he has a girlfriend.
2006-12-27 17:08:43 · answer #6 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
come right out and ask him.....you may not l;ike the answer, but at least you will know.
2006-12-27 17:10:53 · answer #7 · answered by phoenix rising 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems liek he's comfortable with you and that's all
2006-12-28 12:16:30 · answer #8 · answered by Cheesy Stuff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋