My boyfriend of 6 years and I broke up about a 1.5 months ago. It was his call, not mine, as I loved him (and still do) and our relationship. He decided that I wasn't the One and moved on to something/someone better. I'm left devastated. Still can't really accept the fact that he wanted out of our relationship, but learning to move on little by little. How long does it usually take to start healing from this pain? When does life start looking good again? There will be someone else out there, right? :)))
2006-12-27 09:00:20 · 8 answers · asked by moonylola 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Of course there will be someone else out there, you just have to take care of yourself for a while first. Most advice columnists will tell you that on average, it takes half of the length of the relationship to fully be over it all, so you've got a while, but if you keep a positive attitude about everything else in your life, and don't let the breakup consume you, it will get easier every day. Take walks, exercise, do something creative, etc. Get yourself moving and your mind off of it for a while.
Before you know it, you will be minding your own business, and some wonderful person will walk right into your life, and you will wonder why you were so devastated in the first place. Just don't look for it.
Take care of you, make you happier, and you'll be surprised to find that you are even more attractive because you are a happy person who doesn't NEED a "significant other" in their life to make it meaningful.
2006-12-27 09:09:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-06 04:27:52 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything happens for a reason. Every experience,. even bad, has a purpose. I had a horrible break up about 3yrs ago, however if it wasn't for that horrible experience I never would have met the love of my life. No matter how bad an experience seems to be you always have to look on the bright side. Even if you don't understand the lesson's value now at some point in the future it will be clear what purpose the experience served.
2006-12-27 09:10:22 · answer #3 · answered by rbalch213 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's going to take quite some time. Breaking up is hard to do, especially if your the dumpee not the dumper. There's always someone else. Take your time and deal with your heartache, there's no rush. Try to balance things out, from every negative there's a positive. Mr. Right will come along. Mope around for a while and then pull yourself together. You'll be fine.
2006-12-27 09:17:38 · answer #4 · answered by Nessy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone goes through these things in their own way and time. Things will get better. We don't see that they do but i promise they do. I just went through a 11 yr relationship and the one before was 14. I wouldn't be moving on to try again if i was in the state i was in back then. Chin up. It will get better.
2006-12-27 09:30:06 · answer #5 · answered by cripesokay2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it all depends on you and how much of an effort you put forth to try and get over him. get out and go do something, stay constantly busy, so he won't be on your mind, or at least not as much as he would be. it really helps, believe me. there's definitely someone better for you out there somewhere. you just have to find them. good luck.
2006-12-27 09:06:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A famous psychologist says, "Six months for every year you were together."
2006-12-27 09:04:22 · answer #7 · answered by drowningingeorgia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The healing will end as soon as your next sexual encounter begins.
2006-12-27 12:54:33 · answer #8 · answered by WestCoastin4Life 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋