anyone have mixed feelings like it has not totally sunk in that ur pregnant i am 6weeks and a went shoppin for prego clothes and it felt weird it felt good but then it felt strange a mean i am exited a little bit but sometimes i think what have i got my self into i am 18yrs and i am wondering if any one else has ever felt like this i am keepin the baby cause i want it but sometimes a feel as if i am not ready
2006-12-27 08:58:47 · 14 answers · asked by mummy of 2gorgeous boys 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
plus all my family and friends know and so does my fiancee
2006-12-27 09:01:16 · update #1
I'm 21 and I still feel like I don't know if I'm ready for it all. There isn't a doubt in my mind that I won't keep it but you always have that thought in the back of your mind. But it'll be alright.
2006-12-27 09:04:48 · answer #1 · answered by Melissa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think every mother questions herself during pregnancy no matter how young or old you are. There is no perfect handbook that comes with raising a human being. It is a big job and of course you are going to freak out, anyone would. I went through the feelings that I wasnt ready and I didnt think I would do a good job, but just remember that once that baby gets there you are going to kick in to mom mode and do everything you can to make her life as good as possible. Dont' doubt yourself. Back in the day women had their first kids at 14 and 15! There is no reason that an 18 year old can't be as good of mother as an older woman. Like I said, everyone has their doubts and there's nothing wrong with that. They will come and go and even when the baby comes you might have them as well. Just have confidence that you will always do whats right for your baby.
2006-12-27 17:10:59 · answer #2 · answered by Hayley C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sam-
What you are feeling is VERY normal, and you will continue to have mixed emotions through your pregnancy I bet. I had my first kiddo when I was 26 but I wasn't married when I got pregnant and hadn't been dating the father very long. This is a scary exciting adventure you are embarking on so of course you are on an emotional roller coaster at times! My suggestion: get some good pregnancy books (my favorite is Girlfriend's Guide to Pregnancy; it is HILARIOUS!) and read as much as you can about what is going on in your body. Don't let anyone guilt you into thinking this next 8 months should be the happiest of your life because that isn't the case for lots of women! Get your baby's father involved in reading about pregnancy, too, even if he will only do it a few minutes a day.
I wish for you no morning sickness and a healthy baby! BE
2006-12-27 17:22:31 · answer #3 · answered by betsey e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, I felt the same way. Kinda like mood swings right? One minute....oh baby clothes and maternity clothes and then the next....um, I'm pregnant...what am I going to do? I did that until about 22 weeks when I had my first "real" ultrasound (you could see more than a blob ya know) and then it just hit me and I was SO excited all day every day. I was only 19 when I got pregnant, and it's scarey. Don't worry, you'll be fine! Especially if your parents and fiancee support you through this tough time and they are there for you when you need them. GOOD LUCK!!
2006-12-27 17:22:50 · answer #4 · answered by angie_laffin927 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a very common feeling for alot of women. I have a friend that tried for years to get pg and finally got pg with the help of fertility experts...after she got pg, she told me she felt terrible, but that she wasn't excited...she just felt blah. I chalked it up to nerves. I thought she was nervous that something would happen after she tried so hard, or that she felt she wasn't really ready and just thought she was, etc. Now that she's about to welcome her baby into this world, she's extremely excited and ready, but still has nerves. It's totally normal to feel that way. Parenthood is a HUGE commitment and I personally think if you're not nervous, then you're not normal. I'm pg with my 3rd and I still have moments of sheer terror! What am I going to do with 3 kids? How will they all fit in my house or car?!?! I can't handle the 2 I have, etc.
With time it will sink in, then you'll have a whole new set of worries. ;) Take care, congrats and good luck!
2006-12-27 17:06:25 · answer #5 · answered by farmersdaughter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you keeping the baby. I felt wierd through my entire first pregnancy. Even when the baby was born it was just wierd because I had never experienced it before and it was such a miraculous thing that your mind has a hard time comprehending. When the baby was about 3 months old I think things started feeling normal and right. Hang in there, you will experience lifes most exciting miracles, it will all feal surreal. Good luck and God bless!
2006-12-27 17:03:06 · answer #6 · answered by lilmama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
15 and 18 are a way to young to be getting pregnant or planning to get pregnant. You can't possibly be ready to take care of another person when it sounds like you can barely take of yourself. Just because people "back in the day" use to have kids young, that didn't or doesn't make it ok or mean that they were ready because they probably weren't either. Young people can be good parents but watch the news most young people can't handle it and they aren't good parents without a lot of help from Grandma and that's not fair to her or the baby.
2006-12-27 17:10:43 · answer #7 · answered by The_Game 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your going to feel like that alot. I'm 19 and almost 8 weeks. You'll get used to it when you get father along. But dont stress about it ....it's not good for you or you baby. Plus, with being pregnant your going to feel alot of mixed emotions because of your hormones shooting through the roof...but you'll be fine all in due time. It WILL be OK!! Good luck!!
2006-12-27 17:22:17 · answer #8 · answered by Erica M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations! See the websources below for medical based information about pregnancy and ecetera.
The following excerpt is from the second source given below...
There is much a pregnant woman can do to take care of herself during pregnancy. If she has any questions about diet, the use of drugs or nutritional supplements, physical activity, and sexual intercourse during pregnancy, she can talk with her doctor.
2006-12-27 17:17:37 · answer #9 · answered by sheila_0123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't matter if you're 18 or 28...you can get the "what have I gotten myself into" feeling. Your hormones are just out of whack and you are going to be on a roller coaster for a few weeks.
Best of luck and try not to worry ;)
2006-12-27 17:05:32 · answer #10 · answered by Mommy of 2 Boys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋