When do you tell people that you are expecting? I'm only 8 weeks...I'd rather wait until I start showing but I'm having such a hard first trimester. I was thinking of telling my boss to explain my different-than-usual behavior (being extremely tired, snacking, frequent trips to the restroom). I feel like it's really noticeable because our office is so small-only three people.
2006-12-27 08:48:56 · 27 answers · asked by Stormie 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Does it help that my boss is a woman?
2006-12-27 08:57:26 · update #1
if you feel comfortable you should probably tell your boss asap, Its her job and responsibilty to keep it quiet, she must do this. Also she can make any nessesary adjustments to your job, as its also her/his responsibility to ensure that your work ect is safe for you. My boss was one of the very first people i told, because i was quite sick, and also i was entitled to time off for docs appts and more comfort breaks to use the bathroom.
2006-12-27 08:54:26 · answer #1 · answered by kimberley123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 15 weeks and I have only told my supervisor, so he would know to expect the behavior. I am not going to tell anyone until I am six months or showing though. It is up to you, if you think your boss will understand then you should, it could help you out in the long run.
I had a tough first trimester as well, it was difficult to hide it because of the vomiting, and eatting often.
If you do not mind everyone finding out then I think you should let your boss know. Just remember, some people are horrible at keeping secrets and everyone in the office might find out sooner rather then later.
Good luck! And congrats
2006-12-27 08:53:49 · answer #2 · answered by Brandy W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whenever you feel comfortable. In your case, it might make things easier if your boss knew about your pregnancy. Usually you don't say anything until you start to show, but the actual timing is strictly up to the individual.
The good news is that if you don't feel really great in your first trimester, you usually turn a corner and feel on top of the world for your second and third.
Hope all goes well, and have a great new year.
2006-12-27 08:58:53 · answer #3 · answered by old lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is entirely up to you. I am 8 weeks pregnant and I told my boss today. I simply told him because my husband and I have told both our families and we knew that the news would get out. If and when you tell your boss be cheerful and let him know that you are excited. Do not be apologetic, etc. I've read that many woman seem apologetic when breaking the news to their superiors. Anyway, I told my boss and he congratulated me. When he asks (and I know he will) I will tell him that I plan on coming back to work...depending upon the situation, I will make that decision when I have to. Just be positive and bright! I understand the yuckiness of the morning sickness, the horrible moodiness, and the need for a 3 hour nap in the middle of the day. Good luck!
2006-12-27 08:54:26 · answer #4 · answered by babykitten 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was so excited I told everyone the week I found out. I just figured that I was excited and even if the worst happened and something bad happened such as miscarriage I wanted my friends and family there for me anyway. Some people like to wait until they are past 12 weeks which is when the chance of miscarriage drops dramatically.
2006-12-27 08:52:41 · answer #5 · answered by 1st time momma 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I told my family right away once i had the doctor confirm it. I was at 6 weeks, my parents are having a hard time with it, because its something hard to learn that your babygirl is having her own baby, and i havent really told my boss yet, i have to be careful of what i do, so i plan on telling him soon because of the work that i do, as for the father in this situation, we havent told his parents yet, but i feel that you should tell them when you feel comfortable and you think that it will be a good thing for everyone to know. But it should be a joyous thing because you have created life and your going to be a mommy, live it up, your only pregnant for the first time once, and then it seems normal after that, But im on my first pregnancy. So when you feel the time is right, then go for it.
2006-12-27 09:27:42 · answer #6 · answered by lilbutterflydevil 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest at least waiting until you hear the heartbeat. You won't be showing yet. If you need to justify your different behavior, tell your boss in confidence.
The first time around we told everyone as soon as we knew, but the baby didn't develop - basically a miscarriage - and then we were left with the awful task of "untelling" everyone, or responding appropriately when asked how it was going. The next time we decided to wait until we heard the heartbeat and knew it was a sure deal.
Good luck, and congratulations!
2006-12-27 08:59:34 · answer #7 · answered by T J 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many people wait until after the first trimester (when there is a higher incidence of miscarriage) but I was so excited with our first that I told everyone. We had been trying for a year and even went to see a specialist who said try for one more month and if it doesn't happen, come back and we will run some tests.
2006-12-27 08:56:07 · answer #8 · answered by knittinmama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you feel comfortable about it. But, I would not wait until you start showing, if this is your first you wont show for some time. I didn't start showing until 6 to 7 months pregnant. A lot of people wait until they are 12 weeks pregnant because that's when the rate of miscarriage drastically goes down.
2006-12-27 08:54:57 · answer #9 · answered by melashell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I told my family right away (as soon as the doctor confirmed it) because I figured if something traumatic happened, I would want their support and they would need to know in order to support me. I didn't tell my boss until I was 12 weeks along (waiting until second tri is pretty common). If you are close with your boss, tell her now if you are comfortable. If you think your boss will be judgmental, wait another 4 weeks but not much more. (Don't worry, the bathroom and snacks and stuff are probably much more obvious to you than your coworkers).
2006-12-27 08:52:24 · answer #10 · answered by smartygirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i could not wait i blurted it out after the first time i got the pos and actually told close friends and family iwas suspiscious before i knew indefinately the first three months are risky and 1 in 4 pregnancies are miscarried or spontaneously aborted i did worry about telling everyone and something going wrong as this happened to a friend of mine but i think people are more sympathetic to youre needs and adversities if you tell them youre situation the earlier the better so they do not feel as if you were hiding it when you walk in one morning with a big belly good luck
2006-12-27 08:57:35 · answer #11 · answered by tasha l 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋