How can I become confident of my own self??

Question

I have very low self-esteem ever since I can remember what can i do??

Answer 1

This might sound weird, but one of the greatest self-esteem builders is regular, strenuous physical exercise. When you can feel your body getting stronger and healthier, and you produce the endorphins associated with working up a sweat, it goes a long way to boosting your mood and making you feel good just to be in your body.

The other suggestion I would make is doing some work around figuring out WHY you have low self-esteem. What is it you don't like about yourself? Are those negative assesments based in reality? If not, where did you get the idea that those things were true? If you can't substantiate something logically, it's probably an emotional reaction to a message you got long ago, and you can work to discard it. If it's objectively true, think about whether or not you can change it, and do so. If you can't change it, or maybe shouldn't, then you have to do what we all do, and have a little mercy on yourself. No one is perfect but God (if He exisits).

Answer 2

I have very recently been investigating this myself. As dramatic as it sounds, I found out that what I went through as a child made me feel insecure about myself. I heard things like, " I wish I'd never had you" and other such negatives. ie emotional abuse.

I have been researching how to be charming and also how to have confidence.

Check out this website for some information:
http://www.bbc.co.uk/radio1/onelife/personal/confidence/bodylang.shtml

also I joined this:
http://www.confidenceclub.net/
This website explains things to you that helps make sense no matter where you came from or why you lack confidence. They have hypnosis therapy cd's which I was interested in but I am leery because I don't know the company and therefore do not know what they might be feeding my brain whilst I sleep!

Just reading things has helped give me a boost of confidence and realize that many people struggle with this and many people over come it that really want to. It motivates me to know that I just need to be completely positive with what I see in myself, so that's what I project to others.

If you want more reading material, try doing a search on "how to be confident" or "how to be charming". I think both subjects will help you overcome!

Good luck!

Answer 3

Believe in yourself


Be brave...but it's ok to be afraid sometimes


Study hard


Give lots of kisses


Laugh often


Don't be overly concerned with your weight, it's just a number


Always try to see the glass half full


Meet new people, even if they look different to you


Remain calm, even when it seems hopeless


Take lots of naps..


Be weird whenever you have the chance


Love your friends, no matter who they are


Don't waste food


RELAX


Take an occasional risk


Try to have a little fun each day.
...it's important


Work together as a team


Share a joke with friends


Fall in love with someone..


...and say "I love you" often


Express yourself creatively


Be conscious of your appearance


Always be up for surprises


Love someone with all of your heart


Share with friends


Watch your step


It will get better


There is always someone who loves you more than you know


Exercise to keep fit


Live up to your name


Seize the Moment


Hold on to good friends; they are few and far between


Indulge in the things you truly love


Cherish every Sunday


At the end of the day... PRAY


....... and close your eyes

And smile at least once a day!

Answer 4

Remember, you do not necessarily have low self esteem, you may just be giving other people too much credit. When you ponder the fact that everyone dies, and most especially everyone poops, it is very hard to see someone as better than you. I mean think about it, POOP!!! How can you feel like someone who does that is better than you?

Answer 5

If someone in your childhood made you believe you were not worthy, remember that just because someone said it doesn't make it true. Now that you're older, set small challenges for yourself to meet. After you have met the challenges, you'll feel good about them and will continue to bigger and better things. Always carry yourself and groom yourself with confidence whether you feel it or not. You soon will.

Answer 6

Why on earth would you feel that you are less or more important than anyone else? We are all equal and created by God for Him to love us and for us to love Him back. You are unique and special. There is no one else like you or like me. Rejoice in that and learn to love yourself. People with low self esteem are too focused on themselves. Try to focus on others this will bring you love for yourself. Jesus tells us, " Love your neighbor as you love yourself." God bless.

Answer 7

Psalm 139, read it. Learn to see yourself the way your father in heaven sees you. Romans 12 talks about not seeing yourself higher or lower than anyone else. Ask him to heal every emotional scars and every abuse inflicted on you. It will take time it is a process, but God is in control.

Answer 8

be aware of the powers of your own thoughts.
be positive in all things, find the good in all things.
i find that taking the time for myself and doing the things i love are ways of strengthening my confidence. Perhaps a trip to the local library to find books that focus on positive thought, positive action, positive living. Blessings to you as you search for the best of yourself, the sky is truly the limit :o)

Answer 9

If you are afflicted with shyness or low self-esteem realize that it is a very common problem. Yet another common problem is the fear of failure. True, it is perfectly normal to feel a little insecurity or hesitancy when you are doing something that is new, outside your sphere of experience.

A lack of social skills is another common problem. Perhaps you hesitate to introduce yourself to someone new, simply because you do not know what to say. It may surprise you to know that even older ones feel socially awkward at times.

1.) Acknowledge Your Positive Qualities:
You may not have the perfect figure or physique, but you may have developed the Christian qualities of “love, joy, peace, long-suffering, kindness, goodness, faith, mildness, self-control.” (Galatians 5:22, 23) These qualities are infinitely more valuable than any physical attributes and can even help you gain God’s approval.

2. Avoid Unfair Comparisons:
Does the fact that someone else looks better, has better clothes, or is smarter than you make him or her a better person than you?

3. Avoid the Snare of Jealousy:
“Jealousy is rottenness to the bones,” and it breeds insecurity. (Proverbs 14:30) Learn, instead, to “rejoice with people who rejoice” and be genuinely happy over their accomplishments.

4. Get Involved With Other People:
Dr. Allan Fromme observed that “people who have a good image of themselves enjoy a kind of peace, because they are focused in on others . . . People with a poor conception of themselves are prisoners of the self. They are locked in their continuous self-awareness.” Escape that prison by “keeping an eye, not in personal interest upon just your own matters, but also in personal interest upon those of the others.” (Philippians 2:4) The more involved you are with others, the less you will worry about your own feelings of insecurity.

5. Take Criticism in Stride:
“Do not give your heart to all the words that people may speak,” especially when they are simply putting you down. (Ecclesiastes 7:21) On the other hand, if criticism is legitimate, find ways to apply it. “A wise person will listen and take in more instruction . . . Wisdom and discipline are what mere fools have despised.” (Proverbs 1:5, 7) You may fall short in one area, but that hardly makes you a failure as a person.

6. Set Realistic Goals:
You do not need to be the Finest, or the Best. “Wisdom is with the modest ones,” and modesty entails knowing one’s limitations. (Proverbs 11:2) Yet, don’t set your goals excessively low because of fear of failure. Failure can serve as a means of learning. After all, you learn to walk by overcoming the tendency to fall down!

7. Don’t Be Afraid to Be Different:
Youths, and Young adutls alike who allow peers to control their speech, dress, and grooming are little more than slaves.

These suggestions will no doubt help. But don’t expect a sense of security to develop overnight. Be patient. Expect setbacks, and try not to indulge in self-pity. In due time you will find yourself feeling more secure than ever.

I'm not however discussing the feelings of insecurity that arise in the wake of serious verbal or sexual abuse. Victims of various forms of abuse may need much patient assistance to heal the emotional scars resulting from such mistreatment.

If you need help in this regard please go to a mature trusted adult, conselour, psychiatrist, or you may contact a Jehovah's Witness at this site: https://watch002.securesites.net/contact/submit.htm

Even in this troubled world, you can gain happiness from accurate Bible knowledge of God, his Kingdom, and his wonderful purpose for mankind.

Answer 10

You can try to come to the realization that you are who you are. Accept yourself! Try to become good and/or knowledgeable about something and generally be a good person.

If you see that you can help someone than go for it.