hi...
This is one complicate story... Me and my best friend met one guy...he was soooo hot...not only hot he was very nice person...mentaly and physicly...i liked him from begining...during time he started flearting with me...after some time it was obvious that he likes me too...but I needed to go somewhere for my holiday so my friend told me do not start nothing with him...u r going...and i didn't after a few weeks...i noticed she strted flearting with him very much...she told me she liked him as well very much...then he stop noticing me and strted flearting with her...they became very colse...they r not together...but they are very close...i really do care very much about him? and she is my best friend?...it is too confusing...any ideas what should I do or how should I act...
Thank you
2006-12-27 08:45:03 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
really it isn't that complecated your heart is big there is other people there!
DONT GO FOR HIM!
it's hard it takes self control! but let it be plus you don't want her sloppy seconds anyway!
or to lose that friendship!
be a real woman not a childish kid!
2006-12-27 08:48:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay one thing, i dont liek your friend. Its the unwritten law that best friends, or a good friend would never go out with your crush or the guy you like. And knowing that your friend is flirting with him must be so painful.
but then again, you have to think, do you really like this guy? If you're friend and this guy genuinely do liek eachtoehr, almost to the point where they might love eachother ( idoubt it when its this early) then maybe ushould let him go. I've dealt with a similiar situation, except later on i realized t hat i didnt really liek the guy that much, and my friend started to date him and theyve been dating for two years, so in that situation I guess its okay for the friend to date the guy.
but if its not a serious thing, then youre friend is messed up for what shes' doing, and I'd take a good look at what kind of person she is. a true friend wouldn't chose boys over friends!!!
2006-12-27 16:53:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
things like this are very hard. first ask your self this, how long have you known your friend? second, did you introduce them or did you both meet him at the same time? third, is a man or boy worth loosing your friend over? do you trust your friend? did you consider her feelings? my suggestion to you is to sit down and talk to her explain how you feel and tell her how much it hurt you to see that. if she truely meant no harm then let her have him but if it will cause a problem ditch the guy and keep your friend. however if you feel that she was being sneeky about the whole thing ditch them both because it wont be the last time!
2006-12-27 17:08:22 · answer #3 · answered by somebody 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This situation is doomed from the start. Look at the long term
1 You go out with him, fall out, but they remain close -
result 2 lost friends
2 You go out with him - she likes him
result - lost friend
Why not take things as they come, be friends with both - no flirting. If, as you say, your friend flirted with him and he flirted with her, but they are not together then it could well be that he just wants you both as friends and just enjoys flirting
I am sure there are plenty of other hot guys out there for you, who want to date you rather than just flirt
2006-12-30 11:50:40 · answer #4 · answered by PMF 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I think that you should leave your friend and the guy to it and see what happens between them. I know that its hard because you like him. But the thing is the two o them obviously like each other and as he no longer wants you, just leave them to it.
Be there for your friend in case things don't work out for them, but if they do just support her and be there for her. Because if you don't she will think that you are jealous of her.
You just wait and see another guy that is better than this one will come along and he will be the guy for you
2006-12-28 13:28:13 · answer #5 · answered by Baps . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not go out with this boy. He is not a very nice person if he is aware of your feelings but flirts with your best friend. Find another boy wo likes you and wants to be with you. Your friend obviously isn't very nice. It seems to me that she wanted you gone so she could get closer to him. Ditch both of them they are not worth it. Find yourslef a better friend who doesn't betray your trust and find yourself a better guy who loves and cares for you.
2006-12-28 09:57:37 · answer #6 · answered by lozzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she lied to u!
the real question is did she do it because she truly loves him or was it just a touch of jealous/ i want what u have? u need to talk to her b4 u decide ne thing
worst case she goes all huffy then u talk to him let him know why u backed off - ie u didnt want to mess him about by leaving him-u did it 4 him!
part from that stop watching eastenders! lol
2006-12-27 18:05:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this guy did show some interest in u, but unfortunately he didn't know that u like him,too....so, he gives u up instead......try to show some interest in this person , hopefully he'll return u back.....but if u can't win him over, then just let him go, it'll be less painful.....there're many other fishes in the pond, i'm sure there's one specially for u...good luck!!
2006-12-28 02:05:22 · answer #8 · answered by Marijuana 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop your best friend. She's not your best friend. She is a manipulative biatch. You probably still have a shot with the guy, but why bother. Find another guy. It's not that hard.
2006-12-27 17:01:37 · answer #9 · answered by Sax M 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't sound like a very good best friend if she stole a guy off you, even if you weren't together.
2006-12-27 16:51:13 · answer #10 · answered by Tom :: Athier than Thou 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋