We live together and he has not lived with his wife for years. I do not wear the ring and he said it was a token of his love. I feel that the right thing to have done on his part is get a divorce. I don't want to wear the ring and have people ask if we are getting married. Am I wrong in thinking that he did the wrong thing? What do I do with the ring?
2006-12-27 08:43:56 · 21 answers · asked by constructionbitch 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A token of his love would be divorce papers.
He did the wrong thing. Give the ring back.
2006-12-27 09:11:32 · answer #1 · answered by Chica Creole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are right in thinking he did the wrong thing. I mean, if he is married then there is no way you two are getting married any time in the near future. If they are not divorced and havent been together for years I would want to know which one of them is trying to hold onto that marriage. You should talk to him and tell him you will start wearing the rig once he files for divorce. Or you could wear it just on the opposite hand. Keep the ring for now but, explain your feelings to him and see if he will file for divorce.If he wont you need to find out why. I mean, if he ever plans on getting back with her then why waste your time with him.
2006-12-27 08:59:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't wear the ring, but if you decide to, then wear it on your right hand rather than your left. That way it won't be interpreted as an engagement ring. Personally I would give him back the ring and tell him that you'll accept it when his marriage is over and your relationship is in the right place. You need to have a serious talk with him and find out what his long term intentions are for your relationship. Is he planning on getting a divorce from his wife? That's pretty serious that he's giving you a ring, but hasn't even initiated divorce proceedings with his wife - even if they are separated. Best of luck!
2006-12-27 08:57:45 · answer #3 · answered by RomanceStuck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has to keep you around some how right? I say your a full bloom mistress! I am not trying to be mean, just real! If he would of handed you signed divorced papers with the ring, that would of been completely different! I guess you get the picture. You know just as well as everyone else does, he's not getting divorced for a reason, and it's not the kids-if their are any-because he's already setting a bad example for them. I think it's probably time you face the fact, that you have nothing with this man until he is legally available. Time to move on! False promises are just that!
2006-12-27 08:54:33 · answer #4 · answered by sue d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since we're talking about "wrong" things here - the FIRST wrong thing was when you decided to date a married man, the NEXT wrong thing was when you decided to live together. I don't see at this point what would be the big deal about accepting a ring from him. What is it in your mind that allows you to believe that the act of accepting a ring from a married man is worse than the act of living with him? I'm not following your logic. Shouldn't the divorce idea have crossed your mind when you thought about DATING him in the first place?
2006-12-27 08:51:22 · answer #5 · answered by Pamela 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He's married. How can you trust him? What if he starts dating someone else behind your back like he is doing with his wife? If he doesn't love his current wife at all, then yes, he needs to get a divorce. Otherwise if he still wants to stay married with her and be with you, then he isn't worth going out with anymore (One women should be enough for him). You're right for thinking he's doing the wrong thing. As for the ring, if you truly believe its not right to have it, give it back to him.
2006-12-27 08:50:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Obvisously he just likes to give people ingagement rings i mean look at the first one he gave that he is still tied to ,I will never understand we people get involved with people who are married-he doesnt matter you can say "oh they are broke -up or they havent lived with the other for years or whatever"but point is they are still tied with another person,why do people think they can start a healthy relationship with a married person,and why limit yourself,this guy is married and taken .I would give the ring back ,tell him to move out and in your case since your are already dating him tell him not to come back until he gets a divorce,stop playing yourself ,life is to short to get stuck with all that unnesscary baggage.
2006-12-27 09:15:29 · answer #7 · answered by youngprincez23 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hell no you ain't wrong for not wearing the ring...What would you say if you had it on & someone aske dif ya'll were getting married...what could your response be but ''AS SOON AS HE GET'S DIVORCED then we are getting married"
Tell him to stop being an idiot,, get a divorce first & then give you a ring..... Sounds like he wants to be married to both of you
2006-12-27 08:51:47 · answer #8 · answered by ahg30 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it this way, but why are you living with a married man? He needs to get a divorce, period. No way should you take anything remotely like an engagement ring from him if he's not willing to split ties with his wife.
But you are correct in your feelings, ask him to get a divorce first if that truly is a token of his feelings.
2006-12-27 08:48:42 · answer #9 · answered by goldenfir 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost, HE IS MARRIED!!!! What a dummy to be involved with him knowing he never ended the whole commitment with his PRESENT wife.-------so it really doesn't matter if you wear the ring or not he is LEGALLY committed to someone else. Get out of the house and seek!!! He has shown you he can't go forward and do the right thing for BOTH women. Hope you can lick your wounds and have learned from this screwy arraingment. best of luck moving on. He needs to hear it from You. wick3dwhench~~~~~~
2006-12-27 08:58:37 · answer #10 · answered by wick3dwench 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋