we are in the middle of closing on a house and we are trying to save money for when we move in. My wife suggest that we not give each other gifts for christmas and save money. I told her I was going to get her a gift any way. chirstmas came and I made a gift (I'm a carpenter), she did NOT have anything for me. not a card. not a romantic kiss. zip. I'm not materialistic, I would just like to be thought of on christmas especialy from my wife. she had extra money to buy new cloths for christmas mass. am I being too hard on her? or is this a warning sign I should be worried about?
2006-12-27 08:39:01 · 20 answers · asked by ... 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, you should not be worried. I have several friends that are getting new houses or getting married and they agreed not to get each other anything. They had to constantly talk about it to make sure that the other person was not going to get the other something, because they were both scared the other person was going to sneakly get them something. I think your wife trusted you in your conversation that you two were not going to buy each other something and she probably feels bad that you took time to make her something. I would. If you really wanted something then you two might should set a money limit rather than saying don't get anything. You may have just been the talented, sweet, and thoughtful husband and were able to make her something without expense and she can't. Don't worry about it, many more Christmas's to come and spend money on each other, right? Good Luck!
2006-12-27 08:44:00 · answer #1 · answered by Volleyball Coach 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I will say is this. If I were her and you made me a gift, I would have felt bad and ran right out and at least got you a card. I also would have hugged and kissed you for whatever it is you made her. It's the thought that counts, not how much it costs. So, I have no idea where she's coming from, thats just something I would have done. And I surely wouldn't have went out and bought myself some clothes for mass or whatever....I really would have felt guilty. But, I don't know her at all, and I don't know if this is the way she is normally or not. You would know if anything. Maybe have a talk with her and ask her. Tell her how you felt. Maybe her blinders are on. There's lots of people that plain don't think before they act. Hope all works out for you!
2006-12-27 16:46:13 · answer #2 · answered by Xena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say it's a warning sign, especially since you both initially agreed not to get eachother anything. But, getting a card, making a nice dinner, or having a nice kiss under the mistletoe are pretty inexpensive and most couples do them regardless. Maybe your wife just isn't the romantic type, either way you should let her know how you feel.
2006-12-27 16:42:24 · answer #3 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think it's a sign to be worried. It's kinda weird because normally it's the other way around. I'm surprised she didn't get you anything, but I can understand, when i tell my husband something, I normally try to stand by what I say. But again, I told him I didn't want to do christmas this year as well and I did anyways. I don't think you have anything to worry about, just let her know that it upset you that she didn't even acknowledge the fact that it was christmas, she'll understand! good luck.
2006-12-27 16:49:42 · answer #4 · answered by aimabbs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! I don't think you should worry especially, but maybe talk to her about it...
Not having even a card on Christmas is kind of insensitive, I understand where you two are coming from as my husband and I did the same thing, although we exchanged letters to each other. Maybe in all the excitement of a new house, she forgot. I know that doesn't ease the sting but its the best answer I have.....
2006-12-27 16:45:32 · answer #5 · answered by girl_with_the_most_CAKE2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When we agree not to get anything for each other... we mean it. Of course, I would have probably cooked him a nice dinner or something. This year all we could get for each other was ONE THING. We bought a camera. And he baked cookies. Wellllll I didn't do anything I guess. We took a carriage ride at the Garden Of Lights. It was romantic :)
2006-12-27 16:46:04 · answer #6 · answered by Karen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well there is 2 ways of looking at it. You said no gifts and you were serious. she didnt get you a gift so she did as you asked. on the other hand a card or something home made would've worked out. talk to her. you shouldnt be hard on her because she did what you asked. hmm...
2006-12-27 16:44:43 · answer #7 · answered by leaves_of_autumn171311 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i understand the point of view to not get each other anything to save money. but if that is that case, why did she buy herself new clothes? she could have at least made you a card of something.
2006-12-27 16:45:21 · answer #8 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were trying to save $ for when you move in, then why did she go out and by herself a new outfit for christmas mass?
2006-12-27 16:44:19 · answer #9 · answered by Candy B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She said no gifts, you should be happy that she stuck to her word. She didn't lie, and you shouldn't be mad that you gave someone something and didn't get anything in return.. a little selfish don't you think..
Its the season for giving!
2006-12-27 16:43:07 · answer #10 · answered by Dizzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋