what if you had to apoligize to your boyfriend/gf parents for a misunderstanding...what would you say or do?

Question

this is the situation:i was in my boyfriend's house on christmas eve, which all his family was there including his daughter...well that day he invited me but he never pay attention to me...he was always with his daughter which is something understandble, but never had the chance to stay awhile with me...after awhile he took to his lil brothers room where his cousins were and left me there, meanwhile he was everywhere w/his daughter even outside w/his friends except there...so later on the day i left, but because i felt left out and sad, but the the thing is that he told his parents that i left because he was only with his daughter and not paying attention to me...now his parents think the worst of me just bcuz i didnt say bye and because i supposibly was making faces to my bf and his daughter
but thats not all, now his parents also dont want to see me close to there bcuz my bf and me got an argument yesterday for some stupidities.

what do you think? please help!

ok...i already talked to him but he says i should also talked to his parents about that, but the thing is that i really dont know what to say...they dont even want to see just bcuz we have had to many problems lately and obviously they are gonna choose him over me bcuz he is his son even if his wrong...and they say that his daughter should be his first priority even if i am there too...that i should understand and that i knew what i was getting into...and that if i want to be with him, i should like his daughter too...

the thing is that his whole family are just looking in what i am doing wrong to his son but not what he has done to me...they blame me for everything...so i believe that for the respect i have for them i should i apologize but i dont know how or what to say? i dont know if its worth it

also i am not welcome in his house no more so i dont know how to go an apologize i am afraid they will tell me to leave without letting me speak...i preferably would like to speak with them in person...but i dont know its a possible

Answer 1

What is the misunderstanding? That is why you left. For you to not have said goodbye to them in their house is inexecusable. Grow up, and do not expect his parents to like you, even if you do apologize. You have shown them a great deal of disrespect, and now you must earn back any goodwill they had. Also, it sounds like you owe your bf an apology.

Next time, make an effort. Go and play with his daughter with him. It sounds like you may not like the fact that he has a child, and that you do not/can not relate. I would re-think this relationship, because if that is the case, this child does not deserve you. And please move along from the martyr role, because you were not the one wronged here.

Answer 2

I would write-out what it is you want to say to them. Maybe even send them a card that says what you want to say. Explain that your boyfriend just didn't make you feel welcome there and the reason you left had nothing to do with him spending time with his daughter. You may also want to apologize for not saying good-bye to them. I would keep it short and to the point, don't get into a lot of details about issues with you and your boyfriend. No matter what horrible things he may have done, he's their son and they'll always side with him.

Now, about your boyfriend, I don't think that was very nice leaving you alone at his family's house. He can spend time with his daughter AND you at the same time. If you haven't already done so you should tell him how that made you feel.

Answer 3

I'm not sure how old you are, but you sound young to me...Sometimes you just have to give in and say sorry...He's right, is daughter is first and should always be. If you can't deal with that , you need to end the relationship and find a childless man. P>S> If you apologize first , the parents will start to respect you again and you can start building on the realtionship. Give that kid a big hug and lots of attention too!

Answer 4

you are the sweetest individual ever. I thank you essentially for apologizing to the gay community (which i'm of course area of), yet surely, i think of you need no longer do it, because you at the instant are not the only insulting gays. BTW, I additionally am a Christian, and each and each time I hear a individual who claims to be a Christian slamming homosexuals, i'm no longer basically angered via the comments, yet additionally extremely grieved that some Christians could be so speedy to hate gays. and that i don't be attentive to if this has been pronounced till now. you at the instant are not basically a extraordinary individual, however the main suitable Christian ever. Christianity is predicated entirely on love, which you instruct on your letter of apology. With greater human beings such as you, discrimination would not exist. God Bless You too.

Answer 5

you don't have to explain anything to his parents at all. it's his job to tell them the truth. i completely agree with you. i understand the whole father/daughter thing, but he could have at least showed you some sort of attention. after all, he invited you. it wasn't right that you didn't say goodbye, but that's in the past. tell him that you are sorry for not saying goodbye, but it was ridiculous for him to invite you to a family function and then leave you to fend for yourself. and tell him that you expect that he will tell his parents the truth and not just his side of the story.

Answer 6

that sucks. did you talk to your boyfriend and explain why you left? well you should call his parents and tell them the real reason that you left and that you're sorry that they misunderstood. if you don't have a problem with his daughter then tell them that. And you can spend time with his daughter. if you're part of his life then you should be part of his daughters life too.

Answer 7

Hell no I wouldn't apologize to them. You were the invited guest and had his parents had more manners than him, they would of told him this is not how we treat guests in our house. Instead they're all acting like a bunch of big crybabies.

Answer 8

A truthful sorry works best if not then your better finding out thier unforgiving nature before its to late.

Answer 9

just explain the situation like you have put it on here and tell them that you are not bothered about him spending time with his child they will be grateful that you have had the decency to apologize

Answer 10

you need to call his parents and tell them you are sorry that you left without saying good bye... and tell him that you are REALLY insecure... i think you need to get into counselling with him if this is a long term relationship... your jealous of his Kid!