i'm chicken scared or something but i 'm not that close to her anymore either but I ALWAYS CALL her on the holidays..
well ever sence she has been in and out of hospitals and i seen her all plugged in lost her hair she weights about 1 lb and don't look too good!
I had her phone number in my phone all i had to do was press send! and I didn't I'm a terrible friend and i feel bad because of my selfishness but i really have not a clue what to say i want to keep her moods up not bring her down if i was to call her i would be searching and i still am search for some sort of word then Hey i just called to say marry xmas well i'm going to let you go now...
i mean that sort seems like a slap in the face! but i want to call her! I want to know how she is doing! I want her to know that i love her.. i also want to tell her i'm so scared and i don't know how to act around her!
should i say this stuff to her?
please help me I love her like a sister and she is my oldest friend
2006-12-27 08:37:27 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i don't want to cry around her and that is another EXCUSE for me not pressing dial on the phone!
I just feel so bad!
is it to late to call her and wish her happy holidays?
2006-12-27 08:44:48 · update #1
Tell her that... just say that you feel badly because you have been scared to call for fear of making her feel bad because you did not know what to say. But you love her and just wanted to let her know. Then think of one thing that you two shared, a trip, a party, an event, that was meaningful and talk about that if there is nothing else to say...
2006-12-27 08:46:32 · answer #1 · answered by Codi 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
in terms like these alot of people have read the stories, seen the movies and stuff about cancer and knows what happens. but what you have to realize is that everything is in God's hands. yes it hurts you but its not her fault she is this way. her sikcness shouldnt keep you from listening to her at least twice maybe three times a week. no its not to late to call her and tell her happy holidays. but dont tell her that and then hang up. you want to let her know that you love her like a sister and that everything is gonna be okay. that no matter what happens, things are gonna work out in the end. the last thing you want is for her to be scared. you want to keep her calm as possible. dont ask her about her sickness. tell her a joke, or watch a movie with her in the hospital. yes she looks the way she looks now but tell her she is always gonna be beautiful in your eyes. keep her encouraged. try and keep in touch with her like almost everyday of the week or when you can. the last thing you want is for her to think that you dont care about her. you dont want that. so just be there for her in the best way that you can. buy her some flowers. give her a book she can read. basically just be there for her. no matter what let her know you are always there for her. good luck. i hope she gets better.
2006-12-27 17:00:42 · answer #2 · answered by shanice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
suggestion------why don't ya give your friend a call and see if she has some time for the two of you to sit and talk-about anything that crosses your mind. there is nothing wrong with asking her how she is doing or how has she been feeling. If you guys set and talk and you end up crying so what. It is real good for true friends to sry during good an BAD times. Been there, done that. call her. it iwill make you feel so much better and she will be glad you called.
2006-12-27 17:31:33 · answer #3 · answered by nickle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no its not too late just call her and have an ordinary chat just because shes ill doesn't change the way you have to talk to her she will probably be glad to hear from you so stop waiting and pick up the phone you will feel better when you do
2006-12-27 16:48:57 · answer #4 · answered by kim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call her now. She needs you. Ask her if there is anything she would like to talk about... Do not break down, do not constantly ask her about her illness. She does not need to comfort you, it is the other way around.
My brother was very ill this summer, and he loved seeing me, because I was the only one who joked with him, gossiped, laughed. Everyone else hovered... were upset, and asked him constantly "are you ok?". Keep this in mind.
2006-12-27 16:47:58 · answer #5 · answered by shaclare 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Spent time with her, let her know that you love her, treat her like you did before you knew she had cancer, i think once you get over being a lil scared than youll be fine... good luck!
2006-12-27 16:48:53 · answer #6 · answered by jake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she's really your best friend then don't treat her any different then how you did before she got sick. most people who are sick don't want to be treated different. just talk about the same stuff you use to before. she'll appreciate not being treated wired. And you'll be able to talk to your best friend again.
2006-12-27 17:01:07 · answer #7 · answered by JesusFreak777 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just call her and say, "Hey? Your gonna make it...ok? And then say, if you die...wait for me in Heaven."
But don't say that until you think she is going to die.
2006-12-27 18:14:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be yourself. ask her, if there is anything you could do for her. just talk to her and have a normal conversation. be supportative. just be there for her.
2006-12-27 16:42:42 · answer #9 · answered by intelligent80000 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is best for your best Friend.
2006-12-27 16:40:48 · answer #10 · answered by don_steele54 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋