How do I get a life?

Question

I'm 37 years old and don't have any friends that visit me. I work alone. My wife is leaving me. Basically, I'm gonna be alone. I'm too shy for the bar scene to work and I'm fat so even if I went I wouldn't have any luck.

Answer 1

Sounds like you need to make yourself happy first , and that may mean getting to know who you are what makes you ahppy, and what changes you need to make.

I would suggest maybe starting to go for walks, or doing some type of excersize just around your neighborhood, it will make you feel so much better! When you feel better you are more motivated to accomplish more.

Is there any chance you could try to reconcile with your wofe, and maybe the 2 of you could work on your marriage.
Check out Marriagebuilders.com they have some good advice, and some couples activities that are pretty awesome too.

You have to make yourself happy, so get on those changes!!!!!
You can do this!!!

Answer 2

First thing I believe you should do is talk to a counselor or Psychiatrist to help deal with you and your wife separation. Then get a member ship to a local gym. Then find a hobby you like to do and see if there are any local groups with the same interest as you. This is a great place to met people who share something in common with you. Also you find a close relative from the past to hang out with, being with your family is a great way to feel a live and well again. Moving to a new area is a great way also to start over. At the local gym you may have a run, swim, football, and tennis group that you can join also. Workout is a great way the relieve stress and feel better about yourself. Losing pounds means new clothes and feeling healthier then before. Or working with a Non-for profit organization is great way to met nice people. With a little of all these suggestions or some of them you should be able to build up your self-esteem again. Good luck to buddy

Answer 3

Start with a make-over by getting your hair cut, styled for a guy, and maybe dyed. Then get some new clothes and go for something new and styley. Change your home too, get some new furniture or change the way it is set up. Hit that gym and talk with a Personal Trainer at the gym to get a plan going to drop some pounds. Quit eating bad foods like fast food, junk food, and fried food because when people see anybody eating that stuff they gag and want nothing of you. Get off the computer and get involved! There have got to be several committees looking for volunteers for stuff or activities to participate in, even if they are lame they get you out and about. Make sure your mind is sharp too, try learning something new. There are book clubs, art stuff, local sports stuff, and I'm sure tons of others if you check the local paper and bulletin boards. Look for a motivation coach or counselor if you feel like depression is coming.
Change the way you are thinking and quit dwelling in the past. That was then and now is now and more. Focus on what you want your life to look like and write it down then write down waht you need to do to make thaose things happen. Use language like "I will..." rather than "I might or am going to." Your will is the most powerful tool you have.
Good luck and get moving!

Answer 4

You could go to the gym if YOU'RE unhappy with your appearance. If your looking for someone intellectual try going to a nice coffee house (not Starbucks) but the kind where people get coffee or a drink and lounge around all day... if that isn't for you- do you enjoy reading?? if ya do you could join a book club. Barnes and Noble have a great one with a lot of people. They tell you what the book is and i think it's every 2 weeks you meet up and talk about the book. You could find someone with the same opinions as you giving you someone to make friends with. Hope this helps.

Answer 5

Have you thought about looking into volunteering? since your wife is leaving you I'm assuming you'll have a little free time and there are lots of organizations that are begging for help. find an area of interest, such as big brothers, church,red cross, library. If you have a senior center you could volunteer to help with teaching computer skills. That will take up some of your time, get you around people who will be happy to see you,and you can make friends.It also provides a valuable service to your community and will take you from thinking only of yourself and your troubles to actually seeing a different perspective

Answer 6

What are your interests. First thing, go on a diet, you seem to suffer from major self-esteem issues and i'm willing to take a guess that you problems stem at least partially from your weight. Secondly, what are you interests...i guarantee whatever it is there is a club or group for it.If your interested in weight loss, a group for that is great way to get friends.

It seems like you need to organize and evaluate your life

good luck!

Answer 7

You have to think positive.

Go to the gym. You'll work off a few pounds and may make some friends there.

Join a club, go to classes, go to church whatever interests you as long as there's other people there

Answer 8

First things first! GET OFF THE STINKEN COMPUTER!!!!!!!!!!!
If I were you I wouldn't worry about my weight. If any girl would fall for you, the last thing they would worry about is you weight!
So get off the computer. And youy don't need to worry about finding friends! Because they are all back stabbers! Believe me!
If a woman really loved you she would like you for who you truly
are! Don't hide your true self. Just ignore everybody who is telling
you to. And the last thing you need to do, is to start drinking! That will get you NO WHERE!!!

Answer 9

First of all stop beating yourself up. learn to love yourself and respect yourself and positive things will gradually happen.. being alone is a fear that a lot of people have and its a load of horse ****.. Im alone and perfectly happy, thats because I love my own company. If you dont like it then dont worry you wont be alone forever.. We all of us have to face and fight our demons and we all have them believe me. You would'nt be human if you did'nt.. Change your mind set and then you will change. Remember negativity is your number one enemy . (besides the wife that is ) If she does'nt love you anymore then get over her.. No point living with someone that is no longer your soul mate... Think change Dude , positive changes and it will happen.. And please ignore all negative comments from self centered and narrow minded people you get tonight . ok

Answer 10

well dave first you need to boost your confidence.. self esteem and start thinking postive no one wants to hang out with someone who is down in the dumbs and is nagging about some bs ... or what may be bs to them!
coping.org my help with that
Once your at your highest point when your enjoying your own company others will want to join in on the fun!