why is he doing this?

Question

I have a problem with one of my best mates. he buys something e.g. clothes, trainers, jackets. He would use them to the maximum amount of time which is a good thing because you have paid for it but..... He would have minimum amount of clothes in his wardrobe for e.g. 2 trousers, 2 tops, 1 jacket 1 trainers and he would wear them for a year or two. As a friend i'm cool with that but i heard other people bad-mouthing my mate saying how cheap he looks. financially he is healthy so i dont see why he would not would to go shopping. i have tried several time to tell him about going shopping and he says he is happy with what he has. can you please help me as he is a really good friend of mine and i feel for him.

Answer 1

Its nice that you care about your friend in this way.

It sounds very much like your friend is not influenced by what others think and has a good sense of who he is. If he cared what others thought, he would have done something about it. It also sounds as though he is not very materialistic. Unfortunately for you both of these qualities are very positive qualities, and ultimately you really want to change his attitude to clothes without changing him as a person.

However, assuming that he doesnt have any spiritual reasons for his minimalist wardrobe, I have to agree that his wardrobe is inadequate, so I suggest that you do one or all of the following:

Tell him what people are saying about him - perhaps he needs it spelt out for him

Tell him that his minimalist wardrobe may be severely hindering his ability to pick up hot chicks!

Invite him out shopping with you when you go to get your clothes and get him to give his opinions (i dont know if this last suggestion is a bit too girly)

Of course, if after all this he still resists, you are just going to have to accept him as he is. That is, if you are a true friend. As long as his clothes are clean, you should try not to force him to change.

Good luck!!