I don't say anything like I am "the best" at this or that or better than anyone. However I never put myself down and always believe I can do well at whatever I put my mind to. Why is strong self-belief seen as arrogant? A few people think it of me online but I don't have this problem in real life. Would they rather I whined and put myself down?
2006-12-27 08:31:16 · 21 answers · asked by The boy from London 6 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
The people that use the term "arrogant" in place of "confident" are likely very competitive and confident that they are not able to share the same confidence as you. They probably would rather drag you down to their ability level, but instead resort negative labels.
2006-12-27 08:35:04 · answer #1 · answered by Mickey Mouse Spears 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its the way its expressed.
Many of the things we say can be interpeted in different ways. Its not what we say but how we say it. When talking to folks face to face, we pick up subtle clues from each other that helps.
Online is even more difficult because we are missing body language. A smile while talking about winning an event doesn't show arrogance just happeness.
I run into something simular all the time when I play an online game. I just have to think about what I am trying to say and get the right message out.
2006-12-27 16:48:30 · answer #2 · answered by chefantwon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Strong confidence could also be "Pride". I once thought someone was being very arrogant but it was pointed out to me that the person was very proud and had a right to be. I realized I had confused the two many times so I now try to look at it and decide if it is pride or arrogance before I think they are being a jerk. Maybe more people confuse the two.
2006-12-27 16:45:30 · answer #3 · answered by Laura R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people have a hard time seperating arrogance from confidence because of the way they see themselves. Confidence in others tends to intimiate those that do not have a good self esteem. If that is who you are then keep on going with the natural you. As long as you are not hurting anyone I always feel it is best to be yourself.
2006-12-27 16:38:33 · answer #4 · answered by bbwlexi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't have the problem in real life, I wouldn't worry about it. The problem with being on line is that no one can see you, your expressions, or hear your tone of voice. I think that extreme confidence combined with aloofness can be interpreted as arrogant, and it's easy to seem that way on line but not really be that way. If it bugs you, maybe try softening what you say a little, or explaining more.
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2006-12-27 16:35:14 · answer #5 · answered by Angry Daisy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Society doesn't know how to deal with people like us! Hey, just keep doing what your best at doing by being you. You what the people that think your arrogant may just be hating on you. There's people out there that wish they can be as confident as us!!!
2006-12-27 16:34:54 · answer #6 · answered by Traviesa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a fine line between confidence and arrogance. Those who fall short of being confident in themselves do not understand the difference between the two.
2006-12-27 16:34:20 · answer #7 · answered by ©2009 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It tends to go hand in hand, one with the other. It's the opposite of humility or being humble. Being overtly confident shows an air of presumptuousness, presuming that your "stand" on a subject, topic, or ability is better or best. Etiquette and common sense would tell one to not flaunt ones pride, as it's disdainful.
Having or showing arrogant superiority puts others in a light of unworthiness.
i.e.: "Some economists are disdainful of their colleagues in other social disciplines"; "haughty aristocrats"; "his lordly manners were offensive"; "walked with a prideful swagger"; "very sniffy about breaches of etiquette"; "his mother eyed my clothes with a supercilious air"; "a more swaggering mood than usual"- W.L.Shirer
Arrogance is:
offensive display of superiority or self-importance; overbearing pride.
Confidence is:
sure of oneself; having no uncertainty about ones own abilities, correctness, successful, etc.; self-confident; bold: a confident speaker. Being excessively bold; presumptuous.
Not to mention nobody likes a braggort, try to tone it down and show thy self humble. Even the son of God Jesus while on earth, showed himself as the persona or epitome of humbleness.
2006-12-27 16:46:31 · answer #8 · answered by ~Only human~ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmm sounds like you may feel that you have to prove yourself. If so no prob, you will get the self security you need one day. Then you can tell us about your self confidence . Also try to be humble it helps. I hope you are big enough to handle what I said. I think you are and it is all good. To not worry about what others think about you in such unimportant things is the first step in your security you seek. Good luck
2006-12-27 16:38:54 · answer #9 · answered by Mijoecha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it depends how you put yourself across. Its always hard to put yourself across the way you want to online coz body language and tone helps people to decide feelings and emotions so without those its hard to decide what that person is like. I think the best way to seem confident without seeming arrogant is to over explain everrything. If someone thinks your being arrogant explain to them y ur not and wot u meant to say instead
2006-12-27 16:35:55 · answer #10 · answered by Whitto 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋