How long should you date before you marry?

Question

I don’t even have a girlfriend so I don’t know why I am posting this.

We are all on the way to our own unique destinations in life at different rates taking different routes, different places and at different times. Imagine your life is a wavelength of ups and downs leading to your destination. Maybe there is a 5 year difference in age between you 2 and it just happens to be that when you meet you happen to both be at the same place in life and going the same direction. Problem is if you have a vastly different destination, route or speed then in fact as time progresses your wavelengths will continue to distance from each other revealing more so how different you really are.

Essentially your wavelengths crossed and kept going but at the moment when they crossed and for a reasonable time before and after the crossing these 2 people could be highly compatible.

But to insure that you are both going the same direction in life, taking the same route and going at the same speed it takes time, you need to make sure that you didn’t just happen to meet at that perfect time in your lives where you happened to be compatible. I think too many people cross paths with some one very close to their life path and are so in love that they immediately jump into marriage. I mean if you really are a life partner what’s the problem waiting a few years, its only a piece of paper anyway.

Answer 1

Yah I coudent agree More!

Answer 2

I think it should be long enough to know each other pros and cons, to be able tolove and respect each other to have good communication and a good relationship with some fun and it could be months or years before you decide to get married... I got married the first time and we dated fo almost 4 yrs and our marriage last only 3 yrs. Then I dated again my present hubby fro 6 months we got married and have beign married for almost 5 yrs.... So It all depends on how the relationship is taken /.......

Answer 3

It totally depends on the couple. I know couples that dated for a month and have solid, long-lasting marriages. A friend's parents dated for 3 months and have now been married for 32 years. My husband and I dated for six years before we got married. It really just depends on how committed you are to making things work. Personally, I think dating for a year is a good minimum guide for really getting to know a person and deciding if you're ready to spend the rest of your life with them.

Answer 4

You can't put a time frame on that. You should get married when you are ready and feel that it is time. Make sure to talk to your partner about it to make sure that you are on the same path and want the same things out of life. The worst thing you could do is get married and want completly different things. Talk to your girlfriend - good luck.

Answer 5

I think a year is plenty of time to get to know someone more intimately and to decide if you want to spend the rest of your life with that person. Too many ppl take marriage too lightly. You need to see if you have that connection in heart and soul, if you communicate well, trust each other, and enjoy being with each other.

Answer 6

It all depends on the couple and what they have planned for their lives,I have been down that road 3 times and all 3 were disasters,and all 3 I dated for a year,so I still say it depends on the couple and how they feel about marriage,familyand career.

Answer 7

a year

Answer 8

I depends on the people involved, how mature they are & how ready they are to commit. My husband & I got married 6 months after we met.

Answer 9

At least a few years, but if you want a good job to support you and your family, (if you have kids) try to finish college before you get married.

Answer 10

It depends on the couple. Some people just know.