I told my close female friend that I needed time away from her to clear my head after she kept giving me undecisive answers if we'll go further than friends.She said if that's how I feel then she respects that and that maybe I do need time to sort my head out.(told her I don't know what to think\do anymore about her undecisiveness,am confused,need to clear my head).
The conversation ended on this note, with her saying:
She then said there are too many ppl in the world who are 2 faced and selfish,who don't value individuals like she does.Is hurt that OTHER ppl don't value ppl the way she does.MEANING???
Not spoken for 3 weeks now.(the longest ever!)What she thinking\feeling?Will she EVER speak to me again?What do I do now?
For xmas I sent her a xmas card and a small teddy(saying special friend)-just saying merry xmas and happy new year. I wrote a short message how special and unique she is+ how important the friendship is to me.
Who'd get 1st in touch again?
2006-12-27 08:13:27 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Would this be ok??OR Would she throw the card\gift in the bin??
She appreciate it??Her reaction to the message??
p.s. gift not delivered yet, due to xmas break in post…...
2006-12-27 08:13:40 · update #1
Sounds as though you did the right thing. If she cares about you I am sure she will get back in touch with you. There is something else you might want to consider. You have shown her your impatient attitude and believe me girls don't necessarily like guys who have no patience. I think you could also call her and apologize for your impatient attitude and wanting to get an answer out of her. You must remember that people make decisions in their own time and you must give her the time she needs and wants just as you have told her you need time now because of what you call her undecisiveness. Know what I mean?
2006-12-27 08:20:24 · answer #1 · answered by Lewis P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life and love are too precious to play games with. Give her a call. It sounds like it's gone too far to worry about losing her friendship. All or nothing right? Go and see her, take the present. Ask her how she feels about you. Tell her exactly how you feel about her. Don't leave any room for INdecisiveness. If you don't think she'll be able to give you an answer right away, arrange to meet up again in a few days time. Don't let her mess you around. She's either up for it, or she isn't. If not, it's tough, but you will find someone else. Better to know for sure, right? xx
2006-12-27 16:28:23 · answer #2 · answered by the dougal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's all well and good but have you ever actually thought that she may not want to be any more than just good friends at this particular moment in time.
Who is to say that the situation won't change in the future but, reading between the lines, it appears that it is you that wants more at the moment than she is prepared to give.
If that is the case then you need to let her take her time and decide that for herself because if you push it, she will turn heel and run a mile.
Judging by the fact that she has not contacted you for 3 weeks, I think you know the answer to your question and perhaps it is time you moved on...as hard as that may be!
2006-12-27 16:24:15 · answer #3 · answered by jamand 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She does not want to hurt you. She loves you as a friend.. She is not ready to change the relationship with you at this time.
She wants you to take the time and think about how things would really be if you two hooked up, when she doesn't feel the same attraction as you do.
You can't grow or be happy in a one-sided relationship... I think you need to look elsewhere for a gf... Once you do, you will be ending the relationship with her anyway.......
She sounds like she is being evasive because she doesn't want it... She doesn't want to put you through the wringer telling you flat out "NO".
She wants to stay friends... She is telling you very clearly...
2006-12-27 16:26:39 · answer #4 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems to me that she might of got a little mad, because you were honest with her and told her that you needed time alone to think. and if she really respected that. she wouldn't of said all those things. try to talk to her, and give her the present. if she doesn't want nothing to do with you, then move on, find someone who would respect you and your feelings, and shes not the only girl that values other people. there are others out there you just have to look. and take risks.
2006-12-27 16:19:58 · answer #5 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like she only just wants to be friendsand by giving you some time to clear your head she is asking you if you can handle just being friends you will have to be the first one to make the first move back to friendship . if you still want to give her the gift then go ahead but it wil be with out strings attatched . just be cautious because things will be awkward for a while between the two of you .
2006-12-27 16:23:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she obviously doesnt know what she wants, and doesnt want to admit that. dont go to her, let her come round to you.
if you want, approach her one more time and ask her straight if she wants to go more than friends. if she says yes or no, u know what to do. if shes still fumbling, tell her you cant wait forever for her, and find someone else. life's too short to waste on undecisive people
PS: if she dumped your gifts in the bin or something ask her to refund your money!
2006-12-27 16:18:24 · answer #7 · answered by dumb.doll 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since she's waffling on her answers to you,.it sounds like she wants to break it off but have it be on you so she won't feel guilty. Don't send her any presents, just send a note saying you'll be here for her if she ever makes up her mind.
2006-12-27 16:59:12 · answer #8 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey man..look ur in deep **** but dont worry i think u can find a way out of it..if u have any common friends like friends u both know and trust then try talking ot that person..and let him/her talk with ur special friend and explain that u didnt mean it in that way and there has been a minunderstanding!! If u dont have common friends then try directly contacting her (go to her work...house..etc..) but most importantly (if u talk to her) make her feel that u r honest and not playing or something!! and that u truely mean wut u say!!..goodluck bro!!
2006-12-27 16:23:07 · answer #9 · answered by Tello 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its a great idea, if a friend is worth keeping it does not matter who makes the first move.........
Just go for it a see what happens, put on it how much you miss her and how miserable your Christmas has been.......
if she does not answer at least you will know its not through your effort
2006-12-27 16:19:05 · answer #10 · answered by xXx Orange Breezer xXx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋