lied, did drugs took aadvantage of my kindness, only made professions to change with their mouth,verbally and mentally abuised me.and despite it all was my only friend if yu can call them a friend, never wrong them just tried to love them and help them but to have went through it for so long what does that say about me my selfesteem i keep to my self have no close friends.
2006-12-27 07:58:52 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It says you have unconditional love for him or you have low self esteem. Possibly both. He needs professional help. You need higher self esteem and realize you are worth so much more than that. If he is unwilling to change these bad habits to save the relationship you need to move on. And most likely he is not going to change them. You need to do what makes you happy and what is healthy for you. Stop thinking of him because obveously he is not thinking about you.
2006-12-27 08:03:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
On one hand it says that ur a very good friend, and will stick things through with anyone until the end. On the other hand it seems that u have very low self esteem, and will do or say anything to hang onto ur friend. Im really sorry that u were treated that way by this person, and i feel that u shouldnt have been. Its up to u to put up ur boundaries and tell ppl "no, u will not treat me this way. I respect myself way too much to have u walk all over me like this and this is to end right now!" You have to speak up for urself because if u dont no one will. Your true friends will be there for u, and the ppl that r just there to use and abuse u will leave. Not a bad compromise if u ask me. You r worth more than this my friend, respect urself and make sure others respect u too. Good luck...
2006-12-27 08:22:51 · answer #2 · answered by snowbunny67ss 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It says you are in an abusive relationship and are just beginning to realize it. Now that you know how used and isolated you are you can do something about it. Even if you don't want to leave your partner there are things you can do. Find a support group in your area like al-anon. Go out and do the things you used to enjoy doing, start taking care of yourself a little bit. It sounds like you've been putting yourself on the backburner for awhile now. It' s new year so make a resolution to take care of yourself first and your partner second. Never believe what comes out of someones mouth when their actions make them a liar. Good luck
2006-12-27 08:20:17 · answer #3 · answered by mjm52 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
u may have low self worth, because u put up with so much, u could also love him unconditionally. i use to be married to a man who mentally abused me who did drugs, and didn't say much as i feared abandonment, and had no self confidence. your world revolves around him, maybe at some point u will realize how destructive this is, it actually undermines ones self worth, finally i spoke up for me, and that's the day he said he wanted a divorce, and later learned the reason, another woman. get some therapy, words are cheap, easily spoken, the true test is in a person's actions. u deserve more, u need to get rid of him, and go find someone who will treat u with a little respect.
2006-12-28 13:43:41 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Relationships isn't all approximately relaxing. You stay with somebody considering which you won't be ready to take going on by existence without em. in case you fall ill of somebody, this is a demonstration which you ought to enable em pass. yet once you quite are meant to be, the magic would be there til loss of existence do you aside. you're precise approximately staying with somebody because of the fact of stability. all and sundry needs that particular kin member that they could constantly turn to no count what. this is a good feeling to have somebody there to love and to hold you.
2016-11-23 20:04:50 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHY! do you like being miserable? do you like this kind of life? You have the power to get away from that and enjoy you and your life. Nobody is allowed to take something from "self." Don't you think you are worth more? Sure you are, don't allow anybody to steal your joy. Don't be a door mat for anybody girl. Go out and pamper yourself, do something for yourself that will make you feel good and let that dude hit the bricks and get a life without you. You will soon find someone who will love you unconditionally without all that drama. He won't be perfect but he'll be perfect for you.
2006-12-27 08:17:55 · answer #6 · answered by uneekqamar2004 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you obviously love this person, and want this person to love you back the same way. But, unfortunately it's not going to happen. You've given it 3 years. I know this for a fact, i'm just getting out of a situation just like yours. I admit that it was scary, but it was worth it. It has been a month and i'm already feeling better about myself, and have made new friends that i never knew were around because i'm a much happier person. Be scared, it is worth it. Trust me.
2006-12-27 08:16:05 · answer #7 · answered by southern belle 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't be so afraid to be alone. Knowing and being with someone should enhance your life not take your self esteem away. It is ok be alone. It will bring opportunity. Beware though - if you don't work on yourself (counseling, self-help, etc) you do it again. Get some help - there is nothing to be ashamed about.
2006-12-27 08:26:34 · answer #8 · answered by Monkey's uncle 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Very patient and understanding of your partners problems because clearly they have lots!!! Do yourself a favour and start thinking of yourself. Join a group and meet new people. Get out and startind finding yourself again because it seemis like you've wrapped yourself up in their world so much that you've forgotten about yourself. You cant control your partner but you can control your actions. Good luck x x
2006-12-27 08:08:23 · answer #9 · answered by Juicy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your self esteem is low. You would be better off alone. You need to realize that you deserve better. To some extent, people treat you the way that you allow them to treat you. Stand up and walk away.
2006-12-27 08:21:37 · answer #10 · answered by Beth T 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋