I am in 7th grade and very shy.I had lots of friends from kindergarten,and until 4th grade.Then,I moved in 5th grade,and I still don't have a lot of friends.I want more friends,but don't know how to approach people,or start conversations.I have friends,but they're not my best friends and only talk to me sometimes.What should I do????
2006-12-27 07:38:41 · 11 answers · asked by COOL♥ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
omg!im just liek you!!okokok.well this is what i did "do":
i just randomly ask people that are near me for their names and start a conversation about..well..ANYTHING.liek where they bought there clothes.and yeah..and if u feel morecomfortable around them,u might end up as friends!! i know its realli reali hard and im still super shy too.but its ok.you'll make friends!i have so why cant you?I BELIEVE IN YOU!!good luck!^^
2006-12-27 07:43:36 · answer #1 · answered by angel miaka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, school is the most important thing right now. Now that is out of the way here's one secret I learned years ago. As a guy I had the same trouble with friends. I had a few really true blue pals that are still around. However, when I was your age it's too easy to be made fun of, picked on, hated and so forth. What I found that got me past all that was just to be myself. The more I would try to make friends, the more I made enemies. Not everyone will be your friend. Just wait until you are older and you'll see some of the ones you want to be friends with will be in all sorts of trouble. I know it's hard but by just being yourself you will attract more real friends than you can count! Good luck.
2006-12-27 15:52:48 · answer #2 · answered by glencosalsa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take up a few activities inside or outside school that involve other people, such as joining a swimming club, dance classes, learning to play a musical instrument, etc. Then you'll have something to talk about.
The easiest way to start a conversation is by asking a question, sometimes with a complement e.g That's a nice T-Shirt, where did you get it?
Also, try searching for answers to other people's questions on shyness on Yahoo Answers. Loads of people have asked about it. Just enter 'shyness' into the 'Search for questions' box.
See also wikipedia article and Amazon books on shyness. You could ask your parents to buy you a book on it. Tell them you want to sort it out while you're still young, not suffer from it for years.
2006-12-27 15:43:52 · answer #3 · answered by ricochet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Bible tells us "to have a friend you must show yourself friendly." Don't wait for others to approach you just because you're the new girl. Approach them. Some of my best friends from school that are still my friends to this day (many years later) I met on my school bus. That was also nice because we lived in the same subdivision and could walk to each others house. Try to think of it this way too, these other girls may be shy like you. If you don't make the first move who will? Try to take the focus off of yourself and think about your goal. It will help you to find the courage you need to approach people. God bless you sweetie!
2006-12-27 15:46:29 · answer #4 · answered by Pamela 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya so im a 8 grader and if your shy then you need to be more outgoing im shy too but i still have a lot of friends alot! you just need to talk about what they like to talk about go out with your friends whenever you have the time so that way when you their friends those friends has friends and they hang out with you and thats how you start getting more friends just be comforable around them i no its hard but some day youll get to the point where you have alot of friends
Good luck n best wishes!
2006-12-27 16:29:26 · answer #5 · answered by Cutie47 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had your same problem when i was in 6th grade and i only had one friend in all my classes but then she started hanging around people i didnt really like. So i new in my mind that i had to make some new friends so even though i didnt no these two girl i went up to them and starting talking to them. and now we are the bestest friends ever.....i hope you make a new friend or two
2006-12-27 16:35:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a host of friends is not good. I learned the hard way. everyone you think are your friends are not. you will see as you get older the less people you want around you. trust me. what you should do is to evaluate your friends or acquaintances and see if they are worth keeping since 2007 is here. i am teaching my daughter that now. she cuts people off left and right. not everyone likes you.
2006-12-27 15:56:39 · answer #7 · answered by renosgirl2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well try myspace that's what I have and I have tons of friends! Go to camps, clubs, but remember to be confident. Who cares what other people think stand up and talk to them they will respect that.
Well good luck :)
2006-12-27 15:50:51 · answer #8 · answered by :) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To make friends with others, be one yourself and show concern for others...
Show interest in others concerns and try your best to help them, even though you do not succeed, they will see your efforts...and maybe, you can make a best friend thru that....
Well you can start with me(rctns2r@yahoo.com)
2006-12-27 15:49:51 · answer #9 · answered by Tywna Torres 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st get out of shyness and slowly start to talk with guys, if you want true friendship you must make first, than only they will approch. it depends on you, ok, all the best.
2006-12-27 15:59:41 · answer #10 · answered by Dr.Durga Devi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋