I recognize that my way of thinking is wrong but I find myself tending to think hateful and burning with anger to boot.
2006-12-27 07:25:48 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
The main thing to focus on is managing your anger. There are plenty of anger management programs available (or if you're on a budget, books). Anger is not always unwarranted but the critical thing to learn is to recognize when your anger is out of proportion to the situation. For example, if burning your popcorn makes you swear, you're probably normal. But if it causes you to punch the wall or hit your microwave with a baseball bat, you need to start working on changing your thought patterns -- stopping yourself and asking as rationally as possible, "does this situation deserve the reaction I'm having to it?" If questioning your anger becomes a habit, you'll start to see the irrational nature of it.
2006-12-27 07:33:07 · answer #1 · answered by Ryan 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, first stop thinking that your way of thinking is "wrong". There is no such thing. I know I know whats this guy saying. He is telling me that there is no such thing as wrong thinking. Im also going to tell you that there is also no such thing as right thinking. You have a negative thought structure about how you think so you start to think negative thoughts. Someone trained you to think this way. This is very true. Your parents, or a teacher or a coach or society. This is a common occurance in our society today.
~ First step stop thinking that your wrong and others are right.
~ Second step is notice that anger and hate are natural human emotions.
~ Third step is when you have these thoughts and feelings is to stop what you are doing. Take a look at why you felt or thought that way. And decide not to let that bother you again.
~ Forth step is to find a outlet for these emotions. Some people choose religion, some people choose sex. others choose sports. I myself like fantasy, I let my mind run amuck with a so called negative fantasty and then I laugh about it and choose not to ever do that.
See if you suppress it you will just end up snapping. I enjoy the negative thought and let it go.
Oh and dont listen to those "hate will consume you" answers some people will give. Star Wars is a movie people, not real life. Anger and hate are natural emotions and I went thorugh what you decribed and to boot I actually acted em out before I went to therapy 14 years ago.
2006-12-27 15:45:49 · answer #2 · answered by Confusing Love 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi Ambidiextr.. !!!
For starters I will suggest to stop calling yourself, hateful, ngry, introvert, looser !!! That will help a lot !!!
Look you are a child of GOD, and how ever you came with all of this adjetives for yourself, you rather just don't use them any more!!!
Find in yourself the gooness in your heart. What ever the reasons why you are feeling this way is, you need to leave it behind you, "RIGHT NOW"!!! You are loosing and missing all the fun!!! Deal with this by loving yourself first. It seems to me you don't care much !!! What you sre doin is absolutly detremental to you, from the inside out!!! Why are you self distructing yourself???
Find something to do GOOD, to others, read a positive good book, meet positive people and go out have fun!!! What ever your negative fellings are try to put them aside while you are having fun. Be as tolerant to others as you would like others to be to you.
You become a looser "ONLY IF YOU BELIEVE YOU ARE!!!
Surprise yourself doing something nice for you or for others.
And most of all just, LET GO of what ever it couldn't come through for you. DO NOT blame any body else, NOT EVEN YOU, holding grudges only makes it worst!!!
Life is too short to be hateful, angry, introvert and loosing on the fact, that there are so many wonderful beautiful things and people to be around!
CHANGE YOUR ACTITUDE AND YOU WILL CHAGE YOR LIFE
and the lifes of those living around you!!!
But you need to make the efforts first, remember that is your problem, and you even admittied yourself!!!
So don't espect people being nice to you and wanting your company when you are displaying this so negative thinking!!!!
Read the bible ones in a while, and be humble about the things you know you need help with. NO BODY IS PERFECT!!!
But no body needs to be that negative either!!!
Make this to be your NEW YEAR resolution!!!
A HAPPY NEW YEAR & A HAPPY NEW YOU !!!!
Come on, be proud of yourself, DO IT FOR YOU !!!!
GOD BLESS YOU
ALLIV Z
2006-12-27 16:23:57 · answer #3 · answered by Alliv Z 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anger is dangerous, both to you (it literally "eats you up inside" and triggers physical reactions and illness over a prolonged period) and to others. Seek help right away. You don't want or deserve to be a "loser". You sound like a nice person (since you can see your issues) who just needs some help getting on the right track. You're not "self medicating" are you? That can really upset the balance. If not, (or even if you are) seek professional help. You can lead a very happy productive life if you want to.
2006-12-27 15:33:19 · answer #4 · answered by candy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start by forgiving those that made you angry in the first place and then forgive yourself for all the anger that you may have caused other people
Seek out some counseling
2006-12-27 15:46:22 · answer #5 · answered by me2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh you just described my current situation. So am i!
I'm so angry at the people i have to work with that sometimes i want to hit the walls and windows. I'm so angry at the man who i'm in love with but he just doesn't seem to care. I'm angry at my mum who judges me all the time. But most of all, i'm angry at myself...Because i'm the lead role in my story..I can only say i emphatise with you and i think there are a billion people like we are. So we are not alone..
But hey somehow we have to find a way to get over ourselves...What do you suggest?!
2006-12-27 15:50:14 · answer #6 · answered by belindaa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someday that anger will blow up and than comes The peace and love to everyone. But that costs me almost 10 years. Don`t waste that time try to fight the anger earlyer! Find love, even unshared!
2006-12-27 16:19:20 · answer #7 · answered by gerri 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old you are but you may have buried emotions from your growing up years. Maybe there was chaos in your home life. Sooner or later it comes out. I know it happened with me no matter how much I tried to suppress it. I call it my "volcano anger." Like all of sudden it boils up and boom! It does take some sorting out and forgiving those who hurt or abandoned you.
2006-12-28 23:55:23 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read any book by Dr. Wayne W. Dyer. He is so inspiring that you can't help but change your attitude for the better!
Good luck!
2006-12-27 15:47:43 · answer #9 · answered by LindaLou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pratice makes perfect . Stop labeling yourself . Most of all , think positive thoughts and practice them .
2006-12-27 15:39:17 · answer #10 · answered by missmayzie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋