Ok whats up with this guy?
We split due to distance between us about 3 hrs. Anyways his idea not mine. So about 3 months later (now) he up and calls me and says lets do this lets try this thing and see what happens. Im ecstatic and jumping for joy. I really liked him. Well Friday I took him to my dad's side for Christmas and we had a ball we were all cuddly and all that. Later we went to Walmart and he was all over me and it felt great so when he dropped me off we hugged for the longest time and then had an awesome kiss! Well its Wed and havent heard nothing from him I called him on Christmas day to wish him a good one and had to leave a message.
Im 23 and he's 28 so its not like were kids.
We had made plans for today but still nothing!
Whats up with him ?
2006-12-27 07:24:31 · 26 answers · asked by Blondie<3 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like you are being used.
2006-12-27 07:36:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is no excuse for that, for example. When I was about 25 and my gf was 7 hours away from me, I spoke to her almost everyday and drove to see her on fridays after work almost every weekend. 3 hrs is nothing if he really wants to be with you. Now here is the kicker. Tell him you want to explore your options because you are just 23 and you are also young and why would you even put up with that, unless you love him. It has been my experience that if I know a woman is not at home waiting on me, it drives me crazy. Make yourself unavailable for him. You take a gamble, but if he is worth it, it will payoff in the end. If not, then move on, you don't need a man to be happy, when you aren't looking, the one will surprise you and come along. Hope everytrhing works out.
2006-12-27 16:04:24 · answer #2 · answered by aircru72 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you serious your 23 and he is 28 and you two went to Walmart for a little makeup date. You just hugged and he give you a long kiss goodbye. I want to say something but if I do I'll get a email from answers for being what ever they feel I said wrong and I don't need another one of those , so have a HAPPY NEW YEARS.
2006-12-27 15:37:52 · answer #3 · answered by Nicki 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is married, for sure i can almost be 100% sure of this.
I can tell you to go see him where he lives and you will find out that he is married or has someone. Don't let him do this to you.
If you were going to invest into taking on some huge purchase you would take the time to see where it is how it got to this point and so on and so on. So why not him if you are even considering him. Do the math before you pay. Seems to me you might end up paying a super high price for something that will end up being obsolete in your life.
2006-12-27 15:34:45 · answer #4 · answered by LittleDaisy. 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think he used you because he did not have anyone to spend Christmas with. You all made plans for today and you have not heard from him is a bad sign. However I would give it a few more days before jumping the gun. You deserve more respect than he is giving to you.
2006-12-27 15:31:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Either he has another woman or he has some serious mental issues. Either way, I would steer clear of somebody as unpredictable as he is. Nothing like good ole Walmart to bring out those warm and fuzzy feelings...lol. You're setting yourself up for a heartbreak.
2006-12-27 15:30:30 · answer #6 · answered by BigJake418 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He's using you. Plain and simple. And by your reaction, you'll continue to let him. Grow a back bone and get a real bf. It's obvious he has another girl that broke up right before xmas and called you on the rebound, then got back with her over the weekend and is all up in that again.
2006-12-27 15:27:46 · answer #7 · answered by tazznum1 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I had a girl do something similar to me once. Ironically, she went around telling people that I was the one not calling her back.
Truth be told, I think he wanted to get back together with you because someone else wasn't meeting his attention needs. He knew you still had feelings for him and would gratify him. Call him again, and let him know you're busy and would like to schedule time with him. Give him options, i.e. "Next Tuesday or Wednesday evening, whichever is best for you" but hold him to a timeline.
Just because he's 28 doesn't mean he's mature.
2006-12-27 15:29:41 · answer #8 · answered by Fergi the Great 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I agree with the others, he was lonely for Christmas and I am sure things led up to sex..... Maybe the time he called it off with u, he was hopeful for another relationship and got dumped and he came knocking at your door, cause he knew you would take him, if you don't Wise up, you will become his safety net he can abuse whenever he can.
2006-12-27 15:49:29 · answer #9 · answered by jimmy.parker06 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dude, sounds like a flake. As we all know women mature faster than men. Maybe he needs to grow up more. Dump this wishy washy loser and soon. BTW, you might want to take your annual STD test a tad sooner.
2006-12-27 15:35:52 · answer #10 · answered by DeCaying_Roses 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just b/c he's 28, it doesn't mean that he's mature. For some guys...28 equals about 18 yrs old. Especially compared to women. he sounds like he wants to do what he wants to do when he wants to do it!!!
He sounds very selfish and unless he has a damn good reason for blowing you off (NOT) I would dump his @SS and make him miserable like he made you.
I wouldn't allow him to treat me like dirt and get away with it. Make him suffer...if you don't he will continue to dog you forever. Remember!!! He'll only do what you let him.
2006-12-27 15:32:44 · answer #11 · answered by Wife~and~Mom 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋