I wonder what psycology lurks behind why a son whos 34 can not stand his mother he cannot stand to look at her he hates it when she hugs or touches him he says it creeps him out. She is a bit overbearing is very emotional and does not reconize some personal boundries. She is very querky and long winded. But who cares my parents are quirky but there habbits do not annoy me. Is it becouse she gave him no personal space as a child? does this sound maybe like she was inapriprate to him as a child? I dont get it yet . She is 70 years old and will not change who she is I dont think she relizes he cant stand her.
2006-12-27 07:21:05 · 7 answers · asked by kayah29 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My husbands 34 and he cant stand his mom!!! She is controlling (or tries to be) she offered to babysit our 3 kids when we went to his Christmas party and that was only 4 hours the B itch called the police and said we abanded them!!!!!!!!! It has been a mess ever since. That is the worse thing she has done that and yell at our 5 year old because he didn't know what a vitamin was she told him how stupid are you and went to slap him I slid in real quick and grabbed her hand I swear we will never go where she is ever. My husband says if she dies he doesn't want to know because he just doesn't care.
2006-12-27 07:33:41 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ to ...... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how long you have know this man and his mother, but maybe when he was young she was much worse than she seems now. People mellow out with age, so for all you know she was verbally or even physically abusive to him as a boy. If she is 70 years old now, she is probably a completely different person now, then when she was younger. I'm sure some things are the same, but her son most likely still views her exactly how she was when he grew up. Any number of things could cause him to react so negatively to her. All of them lead back to her not being the kind of mother he needed. He may need to seek counseling, because men tend to hold back things that bother them. His feelings towards his mother may be causing other grief in his life--outwardly or inwardly. If you are close to him, you should try talking to him, otherwise it is up to him.
2006-12-27 15:41:44 · answer #2 · answered by L80bug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she has unintentionally stifled him as a child,by being emotional and overbearing and not allowed him to be the individual he longed to be.Maybe you should talk to him to see where his behaviour comes from.My husband has issues with his mum,he loves her,but as he says"does his head in".Nowt stranger than folk!
2006-12-27 15:46:10 · answer #3 · answered by Countess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you this...if he hates her, he will probably have resentment against women. Find out what his problem is, exactly and maybe he could get therapy. Long term? Be careful he doesn't disrespect you...
2006-12-27 16:02:20 · answer #4 · answered by 777-9311 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is the the 34 yr. still in his mother's house.You you even pay for your internet connection?
2006-12-27 15:52:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's an *** or maybe she is. Simple really. Not everything has to go back to sexual abuse.
2006-12-27 15:25:32 · answer #6 · answered by tazznum1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe his was abused and still has bad memories, should seek professional help.
2006-12-27 15:28:11 · answer #7 · answered by jimmy.parker06 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋